He said he got lots of problems & I can see thru him that he's somewhat bothered of his past, but he said it is too confidential for him to tell me and he avoids the topic. Should I feel offended or is there anything I can do about it?
2006-07-30 22:08:04 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well if it is about his past and he is not comfortable to open it with you there is no point for you to get offended.The best help you can offer is to let him feel your utmost love,care,understanding and support. His past is past but you cannot force him to tell you the details.He have reasons for it. It is not that he doesn't have trust in you but there might be factors that will probably hurt you.If you have known him and trusted him,just stay beside him,and offer him the best support you can give.However if you do not know him well,you better be careful as there might be issues which will bring some conflicts in your relationship. Prepare yourself just in case.Looking back at his past won't offer benefit but I hope that he is not a kind of "man who lives in his past",and most important is that I hope he is not "a man who escapes responsibilities of his past."
2006-07-30 22:25:46 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ lani s 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if he is not doing anything wrong or bad, respect his decision. he probably fears that his secret might ruin your relationship. you can assure him that nothing in this world will ever change your feelings towards him. no secret will stand in your way. tell him you are here to help him. thats what your here for: to support him whatever happens. i just dont feel like its nice to keep secrets from one another, to married people at least.
2006-07-31 05:24:08 · answer #2 · answered by gaucherive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to urself first.
Can you take it ?
Think of the worst cases, cud be anything.
His ex girl friends, debt, something illegal.
If you are sure that you will stick with him, then talk to him and ask him to open up.
2006-07-31 05:12:23 · answer #3 · answered by James B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with love comes trust...
just tell him that if he really loves you,
he shouldn't hide anything from you...
especially if it's a problem...
maybe you should start telling him some of your own problems and ask for help or advice... that way, he'll not hesitate opening up some of his own to you.
2006-07-31 05:12:08 · answer #4 · answered by killerweed_13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don`t pressurize him or anything .....just leave him it seems there is nothing you can do about it one day when he feels like opening up he will as for now just give him his spaceand you shudn`t feel offended
2006-07-31 05:14:14 · answer #5 · answered by babeschick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he isn't comfortable telling u yet - give him some space. you should never force anyone to tell you anything. just be his friend and wait for him to feel like he can tell you for himself.
2006-07-31 05:10:41 · answer #6 · answered by conspicuous 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can solve all your problems by having him sit on your face and licking his ***. Now that's hot!
2006-07-31 05:12:02 · answer #7 · answered by n m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋