After many years, my "first love" from high school/ college and I found each other again. We are both divorced and want to be together and married to each other.
Here is our dilemna: I live in Dallas with my 7 yr old daughter (only child). Her father/my ex-husband, lives nearby and sees her often. He is a good dad. My fiance lives in Phoenix and sees his 4 yr old son (only child) often although his son lives with his mother/fiance's ex-wife.
Where do we live that will disrupt the fewest lives? Or, what kind of arrangement can we have where all biological parents get to spend ample time with the children?
2006-07-30 21:57:55 · 7 answers · asked by keepingitreal 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let all the concerned meet and discuss to have the problem sorted out for every body's satisfaction.
2006-07-30 22:03:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you could be married and still stay apart till your kids grow up unless you want kids of your own too.
well the thing is life has to go on. you will have to sacrifice something or someone. Attachments are hard to sevre.
i think in all probability you moving would be a better option as your husband could visit your child and also your child could develop a relationship with step dad if your ex would be understanding enough to make her understand that your fiance would be as good to her as he is there has to be some confidence building here.
hope you make the right choice the easy way.
god bless
2006-07-30 23:43:50 · answer #2 · answered by is_cupid_stupid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is horrible for the both of you! But you are going to have to pick someplace to live. Is there anywhere in between? You should both sit down and look at the pros and cons. Maybe his ex wife is willing to deal with traveling or your ex husband is willing to travel. Which ex is more willing to be able to deal with this is most likely the way to go if there is nothing else to make a decision. ONe of my friends flys down to NC every month to see his daughter all the way from MI. But its not a big deal to him. Also just because your daughter is older should not be a reason for you to stay. She is young enough to move to another school etc. Also it might be easier for her to get on a plane and fly on her own. You could call it her "own little adventure" and she might end up liking it.
2006-07-30 22:33:50 · answer #3 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! A real puzzler. Maybe you should just keep it the way it is and put up with a long distance relationship for the sake of the children. They're both very young and it's important that they have both their parents available to them. It's not THEIR faults that you find yourselves in this dilemna and they shouldn't suffer because of your desires. If you can't handle the idea of a long distance relationship suck it up and shelve the relationship until they're out of the house.
2006-07-30 22:05:41 · answer #4 · answered by Hidden .38 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't an easy question. You both should try to choose best place to stay in terms os safety and money (to your both children) and just agree about Holliday and summer time spared to be with the far parent.
Only agreement and negotiation will help. There is no easy solution. Main argument are related to the future of each kid.
2006-07-30 22:08:18 · answer #5 · answered by carlos_frohlich 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask each others X and compare answers...
2006-07-30 22:01:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like the very first answer...go with that one.
2006-07-30 22:03:38 · answer #7 · answered by mlove1307 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋