for those who didn`t he hasnt cheated on me, but he actually thought a couple of weeks ago that i had (i hadn`t) and he said he would never do it to anyone EVER! but he told me last night that hehad an affair with this girl while she was still married and her husband was still living there and having sex and stuff,but the thing that shocked me was he said he`d never do it and in a way he kinda did! now do you get what im saying?
2006-07-30 21:32:36 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just be glad he is being honest.......the past is the past and you will kill yourself with worry if you think he would do it again.
2006-07-30 21:34:58 · answer #1 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Experience has taught me that very few people change. He is definately going to cheat again and I believe he is using the excuse that you cheated on him to try and cheat on you. He is trying to make it look like it will be your fault if he cheats on you. YOu need to very much communicate with your husband and let him know that if he ever cheat on you, what the consequences are? Take a stand, if he does not believe you, what do you think he will retaliate with?
2006-07-30 21:39:18 · answer #2 · answered by ngina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he would never do it AGAIN. Thats what he meant. He realised that it wasn't the greatest of scenarios to find himself in, hence the reason he decided not to carry on with the arrangement and is now with you. He admitted indirectly that it was something he was not too proud of doing and the experience taught him not to do it again. I don't think he'd stray, but makes me wonder why the need to accuse you of such an act if his intentions were clear. Perhaps its because he now fears that what he did to somebody else will eventually backfire on him. You need to talk and reassure one another, perhaps thats all you both need.
2006-07-30 23:02:13 · answer #3 · answered by ribena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, he didnt have an affair. the married woman did. he was just having sex with a woman who was married. that being said, get away from him. he doesnt respect marriage or other married couples. it will happen again. maybe this time it will be the opposite. he will see the single girl behind your back! run forrest run!
2006-07-30 21:37:52 · answer #4 · answered by redeye069 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he did anything like that. He merely wanted to get you worked up perhaps to get even. His kind will never do such. You hurt him by your actions that suggested you cheated on him. Have you ever sen any one confessing cheating in details? That is the point you need to grasp.
What you need to do is to make him happy and make your love to improve. He will soon give the true confession.
2006-07-30 21:55:23 · answer #5 · answered by Sage_Learner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look we all get tempted... but the difference that makes us a cheater is whether we act on those impulses or not...
I'm not sure why he felt the need to tell you that he had the opportunity to cheat but didn't.... I'm guessing that this was probably in a argument....
2006-07-30 23:17:28 · answer #6 · answered by dirtyminx82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he had a relationship with someone who was commited to someone else. He did not cheat.
He is being honest with you - there is always going to be something in someones past that you are not completely comfortable with, he is being straight with you so just respect that and try and get over what he did before he knew you.
2006-07-30 21:57:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did not see your previous question but he did come clean with you so to speak. His accusation probably stems from his own insecurity over his guilt of having cheated before.
2006-07-30 21:44:10 · answer #8 · answered by The Good Humor Man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's be clear here. He didn't cheat on anyone. 'This girl' cheated on her husband. He didn't 'kinda did' anything.
2006-07-30 21:38:56 · answer #9 · answered by No Drama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably just made it up to get at you because he thought you had done it .. shock, horror!!
2006-08-03 10:59:40 · answer #10 · answered by richiesown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The French call this "menage"
2006-08-03 07:08:43 · answer #11 · answered by Ricky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋