okay.. been with my gf for almost two years now.. I love her to death.. she makes me happy.. no real problems.. normal arguments but we always get through them.. I hate being away from her.. and she feels the same way.. we've both met each others families and the families both love the other person.. We have a dog.. we've been living together for 10 months.. no problems there... and we've been talking about marriage.. I'm 23 and she's 21.. is this too soon to get married? are we too young? these are things I worry about.. the thought of spending the rest of my life with her doesn't scare me at all.. and she says she feels the same way.. just don't want us to get married and her feel like she missed out on doing other things because she got married at 21.. any thoughts??
2006-07-30 21:24:16 · 13 answers · asked by confusedsays 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are already living together, the only thing that would change is a piece of paper...Marry the girl
2006-07-30 21:30:09 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel it's right and you both agree you are ready and thats who you want to spend the rest of your life with then go for it. There are no guarentees. Life is a gamble. You won't know until you do it. If it was the right thing to do, it will last a life time if not then hey you gave it a try and hopefully you can still be friends. You will never no until you try. I say go for it. It sounds like you are really concern about how she might resent giving up the single life before she has much time to live it but if she loves you like you says she does then its proberbly what she wants to.. Good luck and God bless you both.
2006-07-31 04:39:10 · answer #2 · answered by pnktzr50 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about careerwise? How are you doing? Are you where you want to be in your job? Think about what might happen if you had a family. Wouldn't that put a strain on your career goals? You kids are really young. If you do get married, don't have kids until you hit 30 at least! I'm talking from experience, your lives (as you know it) will be over after a kid enters the picture.
2006-07-31 04:33:33 · answer #3 · answered by georgespigott 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel comfortable the way you are, you don't need a paper to say so.......just take your time, enjoy each other now. You both may feel tied down getting married right now. Give it a year or so. There is no age limit on love and marriage.
2006-07-31 04:32:21 · answer #4 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems, from what you're saying, that you have a picture-perfect relationship, so what's the problem then? If she's scared of getting married and you are all for it then does she intend to stay an old maid for the rest of her life? If so then let it be and let her live her chosen life as she deems it fit and find yourself another girl who is not afraid to start a family and settle down.
2006-07-31 04:32:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what age you get married you may at sometime feel you /she missed out on anything. But married one needs to put those thoughts aside and realize what you do/would have a life partner to go through triumphs and loses with
2006-07-31 10:33:08 · answer #6 · answered by betina_scutt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she the clubbing/partying type? Does she like going out drinking with her friends? Do you want her to stop these after you are married? What sort of lifestyle do you envisage after marriage. You have to let her know that and see if she can see herself having that kind of lifestyle. Both of you have to agree on that kind of lifestyle in order for your marriage to work. You need to spell out the details of that lifestyle to her and her vision of what married life is. Do you and she want kids immediately or not. How many? Will you help with the kids? Will you spend alot of time with the kids?
2006-07-31 12:12:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people do need to do the things they want to do before they get married, yet others just want to be with the love of their life and have their kids and raise them....and that's basically the main things they want to do....you should ask your girlfriend if there's things she wants to do before marriage, and then help her achieve those things....if there isn't and she's prepared to marry you, then go for it....you're blessed that you have found the love of your life....
2006-07-31 04:48:19 · answer #8 · answered by blue_bee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that age is only a number. If you both have already decided that each other is it, and you're living together, why not? Good luck to the both of you whatever you decide though.
2006-07-31 04:49:36 · answer #9 · answered by Monique Andrea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is totally up to her. If she is ready then why not. You never know until you try, and if you spend the next however long being scared of what MIGHT happen you will never get anywhere.
2006-07-31 04:30:27 · answer #10 · answered by Carrie C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋