In my case, it almost ruined my life. But harboring ill feelings just makes it worse, so what are you supposed to do?
2006-07-30 21:11:25 · 9 answers · asked by DL 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think theres not a whole lot of truth to the whole "forgive and forget" motto. In a way, its good. We don't need to forget the wrongs people have done us. If we haven't been done wrong before, then we wouldn't appreciate the people that are good to us as much. Sure forgive them, move on with this newly acquired knowledge and be picky about your close friends. Dont trust just anyone with your heart. Its a very precious thing to give just give away at the drop of a hat. No advice other than to take things "a day at a time." best of luck :)
2006-07-31 08:02:11 · answer #1 · answered by onehot_mama23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what it was so it is hard to say. I do know from experience that I can forgive someone yet the deed took the friendship from us.
Or sometimes you just have to work day by day to let it go.
If what the person did keeps happening, there is just a one way forgivness. IF they can't fuss up to it and continue to hurt you...there is nothing written or said that you need to stay friends.
You might have to focus on different things. Keep your brain busy with other things. Refuse your brain to replay the old tapes in your head- make that old voice stop and havef your brain say something else.......like....I have gotten over it......stop dewlling on it brain"
There will be times in life when the best of people let you down.
You just need to hang in there and get through it. I wish you well.
2006-07-30 21:23:29 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiving actually benifits you more than the one who has wronged you. You've experienced it yourself. Everytime you think of it, you get pissed off.
Forgiveness is making peace with yourself. To make you move on. There is no need to wait for an apology, you'll be waiting in vain. Try to forgive anything wrong at the end of the day, it would give you a good sleep and help you move on and get a good start for tomorrow. I did it.
2006-07-30 21:23:22 · answer #3 · answered by OIO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can forgive your friend after what he has done to you, then forgive him? How? Simply accept his apology if he made one, or try to make contacts with him but not the usual. But if what he has done to you was too much to be able to still consider him as a friend then try forget him. You may eventually forgive what he has done to you but you may not be able to forget easily the pain he has caused you. Forgiving gives you a great relief sometimes and is much easier to do than forgetting. But the decision is yours. Weigh the importance of this friend in your life against what he has done to you.
2006-07-30 21:39:31 · answer #4 · answered by sleixy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definite. the alternative is which you advance into offended and bitter. To forgive is to enable pass of those issues. Forgiveness is gained via your chum whilst your chum asks for it or recognizes the wear and tear brought about yet this is up on your chum. if your chum isn't worried approximately wronging then you definately in keeping with possibility the guy isn't probably a chum.
2016-11-03 08:48:43 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if they are truely sorry dont hold a grudge and walk up to them and forgive them and maybe u ill become good freinds agains.
But if your freind isnt sorry walk up to them and say i forgive u but dont talk to me i am not in the mood go away. then walk away with some pride and dignity.
2006-07-30 21:16:16 · answer #6 · answered by Me and ME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can forgive that person for the wrong they have done to you and not harboring ill feelings toward them .youhave to for give them withyour hole heart and you can`t hold on to what they done to you or bring it up you have to let it go.that dose not mean you have to be their friend are start hangout with them.if youcan.
2006-07-30 22:02:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the first place, did he/she ask for forgiveness? if so, then i ask, how many times did u sin against god yet he still forgives u even do u did not ask for forgiveness. so i think that should be enough reason to forgive every one when they go against u even thou they didn't ask for forgiveness
2006-07-30 21:34:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say 2 her or him tht this is the last time im forgiving u and the next time i wouldn't taulrate and would do something really bad
2006-07-30 21:16:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋