Hi everyone, Recently I had a terrible verbal fight with a male friend of mine,someone i truly care about. I emailed him terrible things out of anger that I didn't really mean. He emailed back saying that if I ever contacted him again by any means he would seek formal advice and take the matter further. I can't beleive this, I really want to apologize but he did say,no contact at all and a apology is a contact. It's eating me up inside! Idon't know whether to risk it and send him a apology. I'm fairly sure he has or had feeling for me because of the way he stares at me all the time(for 2yrs actually). I also think his reaction was abit extreme. Maybe he lashed out of anger. Anyway, what do I do, I'm abit scared?
2006-07-30 21:05:43 · 10 answers · asked by charmed one 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I didn't actually write anything too horrific. Just some stupid name calling really. I did this because he accused me of defacing material at his place of work. I've never defaced anything in my life. I don't understand why he thought it was me, what ever it was. I was just so hurt that I lashed out at him with nasty words.
2006-07-31 02:46:44 · update #1
There is no need to feel scared or feel bad, all that is needed is a cooling off period for the two of you. Any response at this delicate time is not advisable. Obviously you care about the relationship, but it's time you looked at the destructive element which you might want to eradicate before it does more damage to others. Anger is potent force. Yet in fairness to you his behaviour does also seem unnatural. I would not be too sure if I would want him back as a close friend if I were you.
You should not attempt to contact him in any way for a while. Let a fair amount of time (weeks) pass. Both of you are capable of anger and that can spell real trouble. If you are worried that he might take some form of legal action, rest assured that he does not possess the grounds to do so. After the cooling off period, if you think you could send him a short snail mail letter stating you are sincerely sorry for what happened (you need not admit you were at fault) and that you would understand if he chose not to respond. Thank him anyway for reading the letter and bid good-bye. If he has softened he will reach you. But still I feel personally that if you reconcile you should not be more than good friends.
So remember not to give in to the temptation to reach him earlier as he could still be fuming. For now take care of yourself and put your mind on other things. All will be well in good time.
2006-08-01 03:48:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some time to calm down first. Maybe he's still in a bit of shock for all those terrible things you said to him. Seeking advice or help of a common friend is also a nice way to know of what he's feeling right now. This common friend might also help you by giving an opinion or advice to this someone you care about that you didn't mean what you say and maybe you're just hurt, too.
2006-07-30 21:17:47 · answer #2 · answered by sleixy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some time to calm down and send him an apology via regular mail. Include a statement that it will be the absolute last communication with him and he need not worry about seeing counsel against you, but you needed to apologize for your behavior. Then, the next move is his. If he makes contact, great. If not, let it go.
2006-07-30 21:09:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Formal advice" is silly. There is no law against apologizing. You can try but it sounds like he's had enough. I don't know why folks send emails like the one you sent. Write them if you want, but delete them without sending them. Once you hit send they can change your life.
Try again. Does he have a phone? Can you send flowers? Mail him a letter? Take him a card and a pizza? Try once more.
And knock off the emails when you're mad.
2006-07-30 21:14:20 · answer #4 · answered by AK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ei, most people the initial reaction would be like that as your friend initial reaction though if you could at least send him a nice gift... with a letter of apology..it might give him a chance to accept your sincere apology if not.. try to publish your sincere apology thru newspaper.. for me i will be very glad.. wish you good luck.. and also pray for it...
ok??
2006-07-30 21:13:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try a letter in the mail, if you can't do it then send an apology. make it a true apology and don't do that again. good luck on getting your friend back.
2006-07-30 21:12:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some time to cool down and forget about it.....Then contact him with your apology and leave it at that until he contacts you back....If he doesnt then get over it.....but I have a feeling he will contact you back, just give him same space and a chance to miss you....
2006-07-30 21:10:27 · answer #7 · answered by Spellbinder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's bluffing send your most heart felt apology.
2006-07-30 21:08:11 · answer #8 · answered by DialM4Speed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is bluffing and a bit mad for the sings you said. get another e-mail account and say that your a friend and say that she is sorry and if she can talk to you. trust me it works. :)
2006-07-30 21:10:06 · answer #9 · answered by Tegan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it's too late for you.
2006-07-30 21:08:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋