Premature ejaculation is a condition that effects many men at some point in their lives.
There are a couple of different solutions to the problem, depending on your situation, what you wish to accomplish, and how much work you want to put into it.
If you are new to sex, there is one easy solution:
Generally – when a man starts to have sex, his first few experiences will be short lived and not that satisfying. I am convinced that this is because of all of the excitement and pressure surrounding the first few events – to say nothing of the conditions surrounding those first few experiences (Quick before my dad gets home!) The good news is that this almost always goes away on it’s own with a little bit more experience. Don’t worry too much about it – almost no one has a particularly enjoyable first time – it is almost universally uncomfortable for everyone. This can also happen the first few times a man experiences a new sexual activity – such as oral sex. Conversely, sometimes men have the opposite reaction and cannot maintain an erection during their first few experiences. In any case – don’t worry about it – this will go away on it’s own with a little more practice.
Now, if you are a man who is suffering with premature ejaculation, and you have had plenty of sex, or if this is something new to you – read on:
There are three short term solutions:
First wear a condom, which unless you are in a monogamous relationship with someone you know is healthy and want to have children with you should be doing anyway. As most folks know a condom reduces the amount of sensation you will have and as a result you will be stimulated less, you will take longer to reach orgasm, and will last longer. Everyone hates condoms – but they have their place.
The second thing you can try – if a condom is not for you is to do what Adam Carolla refers to as “taking a bullet out of the chamber.” Masturbate a few hours before you intend to be with your girlfriend, it takes the pressure off, and makes things last longer. Most guys have tried to masturbate and have two or more orgasms in close succession to one another and have found that the second, or third, or fourth (some guys just keep going) takes longer than the one before it. This is the same trick. If you masturbate before you see your girlfriend, then when you are with your girlfriend you will take longer. Alternatively – have your girlfriend go down on you, until you ejaculate in her mouth / boobs / face / wherever turns you two on, and then you go down on her, or finger her or whatever turns her on until you are ready to go again. The second time will of course – take longer.
Think about baseball. Or of course anything else that is non-sex related. It might be even more effective to think about something you find particularly revolting – like your grandmother – though that might cause bigger problems down the line – try that at your own risk. I of course have no idea how well this solution works – but the guys I have been with all tell me it works a little... but only a little. And it seems to me that this is sort of the opposite of what you want to do – you want to think about the experience and savor it, I imagine (I know I do) so trying to separate yourself from it might be of limited value.
Then there are 2 long term solutions.
A lot of guys train themselves to ejaculate quickly when they masturbate – because they want to avoid getting caught by a mom, or a roommate, or a sibling, or a cop... so the idea is to finish up as quickly from start to finish as possible. So what you want to do is un-do that training, or at least use that same sort of training to your advantage. When you masturbate – set aside some time for it, and take your time. When you get cranking, stop periodically. When you get to the point where you feel like you are about to ejaculate – stop, and let the feeling pass – and then start up again. Keep doing that until you can better control the length of time it takes you to reach that initial feeling. Sure it is a bit of work – but it can be fun work to do. You can also do this with a girl, but let her know what you are trying to do before you get started – otherwise she might be very confused.
The second solution is one I have had very little success with. It is more or less the same as the above solution, where you masturbate, or engage in intercourse with a girl until just before you reach orgasm, and then you stop and pinch (softly) the head of your penis. And this is supposedly supposed to make the feeling of impending orgasm decrease – so that you can go again right away. In my experience – almost every time I have done this, I have ended up with a face full of semen just after pinching the penis. Which is great with me because I love when a man gives me a facial – but it is not the desired result. Other folks say this works well for them. Good for them. It is worth a try.
In any case – relax – stress about – or focusing on trying not to ejaculate prematurely – or pressure to perform is only going to make your problem worse. The best advice is to simply slow down, and relax. Enjoy the ride.
2006-07-31 10:28:13
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answered by ***** 6
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Rapid climax, early ejaculation, premature ejaculation, whatever you call it, it’s a problem plaguing hundreds of men, although many might not admit it. That’s because ever since ancient times sexual performance has been linked to a man’s virility and masculinity. It’s easy to understand then why a man might want to avoid talking about his ejaculation concerns, either with his partner or anyone else. However, premature ejaculation is actually the most common sexual problem faced by men. Whether it is a persistent concern, or just an occasional incident, most men have reported having some trouble with controlling their ejaculation at one point or another.
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2014-09-13 02:11:28
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answered by Anonymous
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Ejaculation can be considered premature when it occurs 30 seconds to 4 minutes into sex, depending on different cultures, countries and experts. Behavioural techniques can help you delay orgasm. Learn here https://tr.im/kRrjf
These include the start-and-stop method and the squeeze technique. A combination of these techniques along with sexual counselling and medication (either using an anaesthetic cream or an oral tablet) is recommended.
2016-02-14 03:18:36
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answered by ? 3
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While doing it, when you feel like you are getting close to ejaculating, pull out or stop direct stimulation to your penis. Then do other things with your partner. For example kissing, licking, hugging, massaging or whatever makes you happy making sure you avoid touching your penis.
Then when the urge to ejaculate has passed, you can penetrate again and do your thing until you feel close again. Repeat the routine above until you feel like it is time to shoot.
I guarantee your orgasm this time will be prolonged and mind blowing.
Enjoy!
2006-07-30 22:28:18
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answered by Pabs 4
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The Diagnostic Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM IV) defines premature ejaculation as a persistent or recurrent ejaculation with minimal sexual stimulation before, on or shortly after penetration and before a person wishes. Wow, that’s not a sexy definition. Personally, I define it as you come quicker than you or your partner wants. Luckly this is a great solution for premature ejaculation https://tr.im/ae0d9
2015-01-25 03:12:56
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answered by Anonymous
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Try start stop method...
2006-07-30 20:59:06
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answered by sand 1
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