How do you cope with the first few days of a break-up?

Question

Its really killing me.

Answer 1

You don't! Its impossible to cope. Sorry. But losing someone in your life no matter through what form inspires (for lack of a better term) a grieving and morning process.

But I can give you some pointers that will help you out, because I learned them the hard way.

1. Don't apologize. Even if it was your fault, just don't do it!
2. Don't call, or write.
3. Don't believe them, if they say they want to be friends. It very rarely works out that way.
4. Moving away, sometimes helps, sometimes not. Either way, try to get over them. I know its hard, but I'm pushing through it, and so can you!
5. Do what makes you happy, and forget about them. It's not going to be easy, but its necessary for your breakup recovery.
6. Cry some of it out, but don't let anybody know you're crying, unless you're in therapy. Make it look like you are enjoying life, even if you're not. These are all of the things that I know I shouldv'e done. And I'm letting you know, now, that these are the things that will help you move on.
7. FORCE YOURSELF TO SMILE! This one, I personally think is the most important.
8. And realize that the relationship may not be redeemable. No, wait, this one is the most important!

Answer 2

Be by yourself for a day or so, and think about it, but if you find yourself depressed, then do what some of the above answerers said, and get with friends. Sometimes, especially if you are still in love with the other person, you have to forgive them, and yourself before you can move on. Meeting someone else is not usually a good thing, and it's actually kind of selfish, because you still haven't dealt with your feelings about the breakup. They used to call it a 'rebound relationship' and those usually don't last long. Good luck honey, and be strong.

Answer 3

If you broke up there must have been a reason. That in itself is a good place to start.

If the relationship was bad it's best to end it and not continue on and make a bigger problem later.

So even that you are feeling hurt and sad, you need to look at it as you saved yourself from a really bad deal down the road.

Like divorce...

Answer 4

sorry to hear girrl. here are a few tips:
go shopping with gal pals
go to the gym (exercise is good agains stress)
get a massage, nails done, hair done (good for the soul)
go and have some sweets with your gal pals
read a book or rent out some comedies
travel or go hiking:)

all the best, hope these stuff will help you to get your mind off the situation:) Remember: you are a strong person and you CAN get over it:))

Answer 5

Breaking up with someone you really cared about is difficult to deal with especially it was unexpected.
You're dealing with death- the death of your union with someone.
During this process, you will wonder if he cheated.
you will feel betrayed and abandoned but no matter how bad it hurts, you will survive.
You may feel like you don't want to go to work or to go to school.
you may not feel like bathing or eating for a few days.
You need a support group. Go to school. go to work.
you may not be very productive but you don't need to stay home mopping.
The Lord has plan for all of us.
maybe you didn't appreciate the guy or vice versa.
Both of you may need a separation to test your faith.
Cheer up!

Answer 6

I just broke up a couple of weeks ago, so I really feel for you. But trust me, you'll feel much better in 2 weeks or less. For now, lean on friends and family to cheer you up and tell you how much better off you are without him. And treat yourself; get a massage, manicure, nice new haircut, go shopping...etc. You'll feel better, I promise. Take care.

Answer 7

You will get over this the main question is WHEN?
That depends on you, how strong emotionally you are. If you are mentally and emotionally strong then you will get over this quick don't let anyone have the power to make you feel like crap!! Be strong, Keep your head up and keep positive.
Cheers Becks

Answer 8

it may feel hurt but time is the best healer. remeber this. talk to ur feiends something motivating and abt other things. see new programs on tv. read books. listen to light music. try not to be alone.and dont try to avoid ur ex . instead if he is also interested be frends with fim coz friendship encounters all relations. but dont moan around him abt ur relationship
hope u recover soon

nikita

Answer 9

you need to go through it, just get a hold of yourself and dont give in! Avoid alcohol or such, its just a temporary solution which will make you hate yourself the next day! Eventually through time, things will get easier and you will be back to normal.

Trust me on this one

Answer 10

I usually just try to get over it and live my life... With this last one i did the opposite and layed in bed and balwled till my eyes were sore... both are rather good aproaches to the situation.