Last week I had a hair appt I had been waiting 4ever. I was so excited b/c I had been so stressed out after having to quit my last job. I had a good day and after I got my hair and nails done, I was so so so excited, and everyone wanted to see the big difference. When I got home I ran in the room to show my husband but as usual he ignored me and asked for a massage. I said later please because my friend was coming over in about 5 minutes and I wanted to tidy the house. He starts this big *** arguement and starts calling me names (I know you can tell we have problems) saying I was a lazy *** and it killed my mood and hurt my feelings. I clean my house all the time, and cook and since I quit working I didn't mind, but it's like he wants me to be his slave now (first time not working in our relationship). So because I did not massage his back right away he would not give me money for a bill I had to pay and nagged me about it for two days.
I TRIED COMMUNICATION. I need a resolution.
2006-07-30 20:43:46 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Please get back your job as you are freedom to do anything without begging your husband to give you money to pay this or that. You do not deserve for this kind of treatment as you have the right to do what you want or even to dress up.
2006-07-30 21:19:11 · answer #1 · answered by Adorable Mrs 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you're not willing to leave him, then I'd suggest counselling. Ask him to come, though I doubt he will. The counsellor will be able to help you.
If counselling isn't in the cards, stop doing your chores, and look out for yourself. Don't do anything for him. He can cook and clean and massage himself. If he starts arguing with you about it, tell him that when you did cook and clean, he didn't seem to think it was good enough and why fight a losing battle? Then leave, go out for a coffee. Let him cool off. If he cares about you at all he will and he will try to work things out. If he doesn't, then leave him. He's not worth your time.
2006-07-30 20:50:15 · answer #2 · answered by Fennylaise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O.k 1st of all relationships are a two way street,give and take in your case your husban is spoiled and think everything should go his way, the problem is you knew this before you married him so deal with and try to enjoy your life and if you guys are ment to be everthing will be find, so my answer is fxxxxxk it kick back!
2006-07-30 20:52:07 · answer #3 · answered by 3kids 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then do it.....be his slave.......dress like crap one day, don't do your hair or your make up, wait to start the chores about an hour before he comes home, everything he asks you say yes sir, no sir, when it's time to go to bed, jump in in your work clothes, if he says wth...just tell him you want to be ready to get up to start the chores early in the morning and you are too tired for sex. If that don't get his goat.......see a councelor.
2006-07-30 20:49:15 · answer #4 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like he had a bad day..or he wants something other than that, the massage does not seem to b the issue, have u both been having other problems?
2006-07-30 20:46:42 · answer #5 · answered by I dunno wad to do.. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get another job so that atleast you don't have to be ashamed of begging money from Him.He is really an idiot(sorry don't mind).
It is b'cause you are not independent he is treating you as slave.
2006-07-30 20:49:37 · answer #6 · answered by happu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's being a biggus dickus.
If your husband wants a massage, send him to a masseuse - they're not all hookers, many of them are legitimate physical therapists.
2006-07-30 20:46:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm.... Nope, no control issues there.
2006-07-30 20:52:58 · answer #8 · answered by mama_bears_den 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh god, better call judge whoppner
2006-07-30 20:46:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
http://www.barbaradeangelis.com/advice.asp
2006-07-30 21:03:06 · answer #10 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋