I have been unhappy for some time with my husband but we moved away from my home to this little town, and now I hate it and it's hard to find good work. I recently quit working to go to school full time but shortly after I realized that was a hughe mistake. We don't share the same bank account so I have to ask for every dime I need and it's hard. He makes sure I see no paperwork so I snoop around looking for evidence just so I have an idea of awhat's going on. PLEASE DON'T SAY COMMUNICATE I HAVE DONE THIS OVER AND OVER. He is not very affectionate with me at all has never told me he loved me but once, and pretty much hates everything about me. I want to get out but don't know how and I am embarrassed because everyone seen it coming but me.
ANY ADVICE!!!!!!
2006-07-30 20:33:23 · 9 answers · asked by Val 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NEVER said he loves you? And you married him? Wow....
Regarding how... a one way ticket to a town with family and another school is quick and easy (assuming he's not a woman beater, then more planning is needed).
Wouldn't it be more embarrassing to stay?
2006-07-30 20:45:09 · answer #1 · answered by mama_bears_den 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG this sounds like me 25 years ago.except he would never let me go back to school it would be a waste of his money.
I stayed too long, three kids later and hard lessons learned I left.
I can't tell you to leave, you can only make that decision I can say do all you can to save the marriage, Like communicaiton, which you have already tried, counseling, Then if nothing changes, make up your mind of what kind of life you choose to live.
I didn't think I had a choice. And I did,
God Bless
2006-07-31 03:46:35 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like there is a huge lack of trust on his part with you. Men see money as a way to control their spouses. It sounds like he is not treating you like an equal. Remember it is better to be healthy alone than sick with someone else. If he is treating you terribly and with a lack of respet then maybe you could seek marriage counseling by yourself since he isn't interested. Marriage is supposed to be open and with respect and he isn't giving you that. If he is unwilling to talk things over with you and is disrepecting you and what sounds like being emotionally abusive then maybe you should contact a lawyer. Good luck to you. Life is short and don't put up with this.
2006-07-31 03:48:49 · answer #3 · answered by buddhawoman32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is for sure the right time for you to get out of this relationship. Communication will not work. Compromise will not work. You should separate then file for a divorce. Good luck!! You deserve SO much better than this.
2006-07-31 03:37:15 · answer #4 · answered by mlove1307 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to do some good thinking,when you got married dint it said for better for worst for richer for poorer till death do as part,and try to learn a little from other peoples mistakes.
2006-07-31 03:57:30 · answer #5 · answered by what is the good word? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand...get out while you still can...it will continue and you will think less and less about yourself...its ok to leave even if there is no cheating...its called emotional abuse
2006-07-31 03:45:51 · answer #6 · answered by concerned friend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that's what you want, then do as you wish. Don't worry about how it gonna embarrasse u
2006-07-31 03:46:49 · answer #7 · answered by DaNewGuy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you dont feel confortable with your partner
2006-07-31 03:36:26 · answer #8 · answered by manuj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's no one's fault but yours you idiot.
2006-07-31 04:15:57 · answer #9 · answered by Lothario 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋