I know so many people who are divorced and don't want to remarry. That scares me since I am hoping to get married, and have it last. What was the reason you got divorced? Can you imagine a situation in which you would be happily married?
2006-07-30 20:30:19 · 12 answers · asked by goatluvver 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It takes two people to have a successful marriage, and it takes two to have a divorce also.
Regardless of the reasons leading to a divorce, the decision to remarry depends on many factors and depends on the divorced person as well. The situation, feelings, and circumstances vary from one person to the other and from one case to the other.
In my case, I have full custody of my two children and I am the sole provider for the family. I was not willing to take the risk of loosing custody to my children or devoting less than 100% of my income, effort and time to anyone besides the three of us.
I am not saying this is the best thing to do, but it is the best thing for my situation and case. I made this decision on free will and full choice, not feeling I sacrificed anything
Also, I believe I have grown to be too independent for any man.
2006-07-30 21:02:37 · answer #1 · answered by gihan_rashad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i got divorced because my wife would not embrace the new and better methods for a good relationship that i was learning in recovery and, since i now knew the difference between the awful thing we had and what is good, i just couldn't stay there with the abuse and lack of love.
i did remarry because i now knew how it could be and found a divorced partner who was also learning and doing what i was re: a good relationship. we weren't perfect at first but we seriously applied the new methods of love, affection, HONESTY, empathy, friendship, loyalty, etc. and things have been really swell for 15 years now. no ugly scenes, separations, affairs, hate, etc. we just practice love all the time and everyday is our first date all over again!
i wish i could get everyone to learn HOW to have a good relationship - the information is all over the place if you want it!
2006-07-31 03:49:29 · answer #2 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always a conflict between a husband and a wife on different subjects and issues that are there from the start or come up later in the relationship..
You have to understand that any two people, no matter how close they are, they will think different and will have vastly a different personality.
No two brothers brought up together think alike or have the same personality. It may be difficult for the friend of one brother to have same level of relation with the other as well. But it is not necessary that you have to be with the second one as well for the friendship to work.
But in a Husband-Wife relation, you have to understand the other person, his/her persona, behaviour, temperament, ego and nonetheless change yourself and your thinking to a limit where you are in sync with your spouse's life style and meet his expectations. This change has to be brought in a relation by both the parties involved, but someone has to take the initiative and make this respectful relation work for life..
Best of Luck for your Future..
2006-07-31 03:41:53 · answer #3 · answered by mk_single 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many reasons to leave a marriage. Mine wasn't happy with me so she made a choice. Am fine with it and i wish her the best of luck. But remarrying is the last thing on my mind. Why should I put myself in another situation like that? Different woman, different Bullsh*t. Or different woman, same BullSh*t.
Sorry, i would rather be single and have fun.
2006-07-31 03:38:56 · answer #4 · answered by DaNewGuy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't look on past relationships as a waste of time... you have to look at them as growing experiences who help you become who you are now... keep things in perspective. I married at 17, split at 18, divorced at 19 (to my first "love" and wanted to get out of house, wrong reasons to marry)... I then married at 23, split at 25 and divorced at 27 (I was lonely and co-dependant, again wrong reasons to marry). I then married my very best friend of three years when I was 29... because I couldn't imagine my life without him and knew I could live with him for 50 years even if he never changed. We've been married nearly 12 years now, have never split up (or even discussed it) and have a 5 year old child.... Your friends need to keep things in perspective. *S*
2006-07-31 03:38:57 · answer #5 · answered by mama_bears_den 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got divorced because my ex husband was abusive and a cheater! I often imagine being married again at some point, but realistically, that may not ever happen.
2006-07-31 03:34:42 · answer #6 · answered by mkjhfiuy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I left my exhusband because he was an abusive prick. Would I remarry, the right person yes and someone who had proven themselves too me.
2006-07-31 03:33:16 · answer #7 · answered by vinyl_mad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if i found the right person that i love very much but we are takeing it kind of slow and see what happen but i think were going to end up geting marry
2006-07-31 03:34:29 · answer #8 · answered by little ace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MY EX WIFE CHEATED AND SHE WANTED FREEDOM.
I SAID I WOULD NEVER REMARRY. AFTER 26 YEARS OF BEING SINGLE, I WOULD CONSIDER GETTING MARRIED NOW. SHE WOULD BE BEAUTIFUL, RICH, 90 YEARS OLD, AND TERMINALLY ILL-LOL.
2006-07-31 03:35:11 · answer #9 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i got bored with my husband - i won't be getting married again - i need more variety and my own space - i think marriage is over rated
2006-07-31 03:53:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋