What should i do? I need some answers.?
I HAVE BEEN WITH MY BF FOR OVER A YEAR BUT I HAVE KNOW HIM FOR ABOUT 3 YEARS. i just been going thru some crazy things. its like i have to decide between family and my bf. i mean my family (mother) is sometimes negative and sometimes i think she doesnt want to see any of her children happy bc she says we need her and she doesnt need us..for the most part i love my family dearly.we just dont show emotions like most families should. I have graduated from community college..thats where i met my bf at and to me he is supportive of what i want he never tells me that i cant do something bc im not physically or mentally able to do something. for the most part my mother doesnt like him but yet he is the best thing i feel like that has happend to me. thats my best friend but he wants to be with me and tired of all the drama as am i. i mean he cant see me and my mother doesnt like for him to call me at all. he has given up his track scholarship for this season and might take a semester off
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just so we can be together and do our own thing...i will be 20 coming up august 15th and he is 23 so im wondering am i wrong for leaving my family and not continuing school for now to be with him??
2006-07-30 20:28:12 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You are physically and mentally capable of doing anything. Your mother may have tried to convince you otherwise so that you would always feel dependent on her. If your boyfriend is as supportive as you say then he'll agree with me on this.
This isn't really a question of choosing between your boyfriend or your family. This is a question of whether to let other control your life or not. You're twenty, it's time to make your own decisions.
By the way, stay in school, both of you. I'm married and my wife and I are both in school. You can, and should, have both.
2006-07-30 20:40:49 · answer #1 · answered by feelgood 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think as being 20, almost 21. You should finish out school and so should he. At the same time, save up money and then be with him.
You got only you to fully support yourself. He might be the greatest thing now but things can turn sour. Always, always prepare for the worst. Meaning, make sure you can support yourself and you are able to float.
Your famliy doesn't seem healthy. I do think you need to have a change in enviroment. However, once you do so. You can't "go back". So, keep that in mind.
I know what you are going through on a lot of this. Toughing it out can only go for so long. However, just make the best wise choice for youself.
2006-07-30 21:42:28 · answer #2 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing you learn as you get older is you were not brought into this world to make your parents happy all the time. there comes the day that you look toward YOUR future, YOUR life. It's a part of growing up and all parents are not going to be happy with their child's choices in life, but that is how we learn and grow.
2006-07-30 20:35:46 · answer #3 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, i think you made a mistake coz your family is always there to support you and if 1 guy takes all that away and leaves you some day then what are you gonna do? i would say try talking to your family about it.
2006-07-30 21:11:19 · answer #4 · answered by theguru_10 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If its love, leaving is never wrong. Your family will understand. It may just take them a while.
2006-07-30 20:35:58 · answer #5 · answered by mlove1307 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u shud put evey one in their own place family on one side and b/f or man on the other!
2006-07-30 20:34:13 · answer #6 · answered by monaUK 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might not have moral support when/if he abuses you.
2006-07-30 21:28:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋