2006-07-30 19:44:04 · 10 answers · asked by frr_ls 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have been in that situation. I was ashamed for anyone to know that i was being abused, and i knew that if i left he would somehow talk me into coming back. I left several times. I would lay in bed at night and plan my next escape. He slapped me for no reason, called me ugly names, accused me of everything in the book and beat me so bad one night he broke my jaw and dared me to call 911. I knew that if I did, he would kill me before they could get there. But one morning as I left for work, I grabbed a few things out of the dryer on my way out the door and never went back.
2006-07-30 19:53:08 · answer #1 · answered by sillynurse 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People never "allow" anyone to beat up on them. The fact is that the beater is an attacker. And the victim is merely waiting for the proper time to take an action to stop the beating.
No one but the victim knows when the right time to leave is. Professionals "think' they know that it's right for a victim to leave but NO ONE except that victim truly knows when the time is right for them. Some women have saved their own lives by "STAYING" for long periods of time with batterers. Ask , hmmm..any dead woman...did she leave because she knew it was the right time to leave or did she leave because professionals urged her to leave?
Listen to all your own inner instincts and YOU WILL KNOW if you should leave or stay longer. Everyone has their own right time, and if one leave s before their own right time, then one usually gets killed or harmed in ways that they would not have been harmed had they stayed ten minutes longer or four years longer.
Each individual KNOWS the right time to leave. So just because a victim stays,this does not mean that sh'es allowing someone to beat her nor does this mean that she's permitting it or approving of it. DV and abuse is a CRIME, plain and simple. We need to get tough on this CRIME, and protect women whether they leave or stay with the abusers.
Its their right to STAY and to still be protected!!
2006-07-30 20:02:23 · answer #2 · answered by jfoster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Low self esteem and the mistaken belief that the spouse will someday magically change.
2006-07-30 19:46:56 · answer #3 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
low self esteem. and they think the person will change, and the feel the love is real.
thnks for your answer, it was good thought. though they could seperate them. but i think people should be able to have higher mind and macherity and look beyond sexuality. just cause i see a guy, naked or not, i dont instantly check him out and wanna do him. personaly i have a rule, i seperare work from play.
2006-07-30 20:55:25 · answer #4 · answered by jaymccc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dependence on the money their spouse makes.
2006-07-30 19:48:06 · answer #5 · answered by big_j_gizzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because it's something that they lived with in there lifes or they think so less of them self they think it's ok to hit people and if this is happening to you GET OUT!! leave his *** and go home to your parents of somewhere safe noone needs to live like that!!
2006-07-30 20:57:45 · answer #6 · answered by munchkin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Scared. Low self-esteem. Nowhere else to go.
2006-07-30 20:10:17 · answer #7 · answered by Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lets get strait to the bottom women like men who treat them badly
2006-07-30 19:57:37 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess they feel if they hit me they love me but that bull if a man or woman hit you that's they way of telling you leave me or i don't want you anymore if they hit you one time believe me it's going to happen again
2006-07-30 19:54:44 · answer #9 · answered by toni m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
KANGA IS RIGHT NO BETTER ANSWER
2006-07-30 19:47:51 · answer #10 · answered by SeeKer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋