Ive had a crush on my teacher for about 2 years now. EWW i know, but i honestly cant help how i feel. I feel as if i can talk to him about everything and anything when i need someone to talk to. He gives me that sense of security and that protective feel and ive never felt like that before. My friend liked him last year as well and i told her to get over him and eventually she did, but why cant i? It just feels right with him. He listens, he understands, he helps, he cares, his just always there!!! I thought i only admired him heaps because he was like a father figure to me, but boy i cant deny my feelings for him anymore. Nothing will ever happen between us i know that, but its painful just thinking about him all the time, the fact that i cant have him, the fact that i'd risk anything and do anything for him. I've just developed such strong feelings for him, i want to get over him but i cant, its impossible!! too complicated!! i admire him soo much and its getting crazy,,, love *tsk*
2006-07-30 19:16:20 · 8 answers · asked by Michelle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ive tried so hard to try and get over him, during the summer holidays i was overseas with people, i was at the place i've dreamt of going ever since i was 2 and finally i was there. But all i could think about day and night was him. We've gone through so much no one understands, i got into a fight and got suspended and he covered alota things up for me, i had troubles handing in my assigments and he didnt take any marks off me. Things got really rough at one stage because someone close to me passed away and he got me out of like every class to talk to me and stuff, he hates maths and isn't the best at it, i didn't understand some concepts yet again he helped; he went library to search books etc, so much has happened and i could honestly type pages!!! i just cant help how i feel!
2006-07-30 19:27:52 · update #1
i know im an idiot, im almost 16 and his like 46. I cant help my feelings, its not like i wanted it to happen, but it has and i feel stupid, but i really cant help it
2006-07-30 19:31:42 · update #2
Dear Michelle,
It "Feels" right because he is affirming you. This is probably something that you are lacking, perhaps because of the lack of a Father figure, perhaps he is not there or he is distant? I know that right now your feelings are overwhelming you and you feel this is good, and are probably wondering how something that feels so right can be so wrong. There is nothing I can tell you that will change your feelings because feelings, by nature, FOLLOW actions.
For example, if I am sad because I have an absent father, I want to be affirmed by another male. This would be something I would not have felt like I have ever gotten. So because I have made a choise that I need afirmation to be happy, I will seek out affirmation from men. Only this won't really help me in the long run, because as I demand affirmation I become a burden to the man in my life, eventually he must back a way because no one is able to only affirm people - eventually he will resent that I require constant emotional support.
Imagine if you gave way to your fantasy's, what if that progressed into sexual sins, what would you feel then when the truth got out? You can't hide things like that forever - the truth would come out, it is only a matter of time. I advise you to battle against the temptation to see this man as the solution an emotional problem. It is not going to get you what you want in the long run. You must master your feelings or sin and shame will have you - and then where will you turn for comfort and affirmation?
I recommend that you deal with whatever issue is deep in your heart. You may need to be loved by a father. If so, see a pastor who has experience dealing with teens and explain your feelings and what you have learned here. I would also advise you to learn about the Father who loves you unconditionally, the father God.
Bless you.
2006-07-31 04:32:32 · answer #1 · answered by davidvario 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww I'm sorry. I don't know how old you are but I do sympathize. I've always been attracted to older men. When I was 17-18 I was dating men between 40 and 50 lol. I just didn't like the younger ones they were usually jerks, the older ones treated me soo much better, were more stable and settled in their lives. So how much longer are you in his class for? I wish you told us your ages. Eventually time heals everything and if it's meant to be it has a way of working out. Hang in there and I wish you the best.
2006-07-30 19:22:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay... you trust him, he listens, he understands, he helps, he cares... those are all things that describe his JOB! He is your teacher, those are the things he is supposed to do. If after you graduate and you still feel this way and he returns the feelings, then that's another story. But as for now it would be very inappropriate to try to pursue a relationship with him. He probably treats everyone in the class the same.. and all the girls probably adore him.
2006-07-30 19:27:48 · answer #3 · answered by curious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO> your teacher is a good "role-model" or "mentor" but that is all> you should respect the age difference> NO offense, but very likely is that he doens't think of you as more than a student> respect the teacher/student barrier and find a younger suitable b/f that has more in commen w/ you than your "older" teacher.
2006-07-30 19:22:06 · answer #4 · answered by esero26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would never ever work out
2006-07-30 19:20:28 · answer #5 · answered by Hard Rocker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am probably old enough to be your dad too. Email me if you want to hear "his" side. we can chat or email eachother on this.
2006-07-30 19:24:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will get over him. when you graduate. then you'll have crushes on guys your own age. trust me - this is very common! :)
2006-07-30 19:20:28 · answer #7 · answered by aj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will get over him. it will just take time.
2006-07-30 19:22:12 · answer #8 · answered by luvbuggies 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋