is it normal to feel scared about Divorce?

Question

I am scared about Divorce I love my husband we have been together for 6 yrs and he just now tells me that he isnt happy and he cheated on me with a younger and prettier girl that he works with what should I do I will have nothing if we divorce

Answer 1

YES it is normal to feel scared. I am divorced too. No matter how dark your world seems today, it will get better. I am VERY happy today.

And forget that younger and prettier stuff. That's just to make you feel bad. That's not why he cheated - don't accept any of the blame for an adult who chooses to do something wrong.
Don't stop loving yourself just because he messed up.

Contact a free legal service organization in your state for advice about what to do - legal separation, alimony, child support etc. And TALK to someone - even if you're not religious, there is someone in a church right now who will talk to you and offer you words of encouragement.

FIND a divorce support group so that you don't feel alone.

Answer 2

Don't think you're alone on this. Becoming a single mother happens everyday and if you have the resources to take care of you and your child, don't waste another day killing your self-esteem. You're young and that is the best part. There are so many wonderful men out there who never got married, are divorced, or can't even have children. I know a lady who had three kids and was in her thirties when she got married again. Better guy the second time around. But don't go out searching like a mad woman just yet. Get yourself settled and secured into a new life, keep your heart open, and I promise the right guy will come along. God doesn't make junk-remember this. Read some Psalms and you'll feel better.

Answer 3

Yes is normal! My ex husband did the same to me two days after Christmas over two years ago. He left me for a younger woman he knew back in high school after 4 years of marriage. (I knew it was a bad idea to move to his home town!) Don't feel that you will have nothing if you divorce! I am in a very loving relationship now and we are very strong! You do what you feel is that you need to do. If you love your husband and you feel that you can work this out, then do it! Even if it means counseling. If you feel divorce is the only way, keep your head up. You will have long nights and wet pillowcases but it will only get better! If you want to talk more, email me! JenniferN0126

Answer 4

It is natural for fear. The biggest problem facing you is the future and many young women are not prepared to earn their own living. However, many divorce lawyers will take on cases such as your husband's adultery for a percentage of the settlement. If that is the case in your state, perhaps it will be sufficient for you to get job-training, and I would look at welfare as a possibility to ease your problem....and perhaps, they can steer you towards work or job training. At this point, you have to consider all options, and even a job at a fast food place might keep a roof over your head.

Answer 5

yes it is perfectly normal to feel scared....and i understand you may love him and don't want to get a divorce but it seems that he has made his mind up..especially if he has already cheated on you...if you stay with him it will just make him more and more unhappy...because he has already been up front with you and told you that he cheated..so maybe that was his way of saying you know what i think i need to get out of this relationship..and you know what as hard as it may be to accept right now it may be better for you as well because you won't have to worry about him possibly cheating again...and sadly if he is not happy with you and resorted to cheating i don't think that it will do any good to hold on to something that is gone...things will be ok eventually if you get a divorce....just be strong...

Answer 6

Of course you're going to feel scared about divorce. Especially if your marriage to your husband is all you've known for 6 years and you still love him. But to answer your question, let me ask you one in return: how much worse would it be to stay in a relationship with someone who has just told you they don't love you back? My advice is that as much as it may (and will) hurt, you should move on with your life and find love that will be reciprocated. You don't deserve to be treated this way.

Answer 7

Whether to get a divorce is up to you. You don't deserve to be treated badly, but if you're husband is willing to give counseling a chance you may want to give that a try before you get a divorce. You don't mention if you have children but that should be a consideration too. And yes, its definately normal to be scared of divorce.

Answer 8

Well it sounds to me that u have nothing with him.. so lets see, u can have nothing in a marriage and be miserable knowing ur husband has zero respect for you and love for you, or u can have nothing on your own, do what u want when u want, dont have to worry about feeling like your less than and actually find a man that will give u A HELL OF ALOT MORE then your husband is doing and actually possibly be happier then u ever been.. now its ur choice..

Answer 9

It is scary...but it is not the end of the world
Get yourself together... Do not think that you are helpless...Think positive there are thousands of people in this world which are happy after a divorce
Start reconnecting with your close friends/relatives..who can help you out ...build a network of people around you who will help you..
Start planning about how can you survive without him get help from a lawyer
Start looking for job or a course which will give you a job

Answer 10

I've been in that situation, but I was the homewrecker.


You'll be alright. Especially if you have children, You can suck the life out of him by getting him for child support and alimony. Unless you live in Florida. They dont let anyone get alimony anymore.

Also, there is another solution to the having nothing thing. Get off your butt and get a job. If you have one and its still not enough, start prostituting. I'd go to Vegas for that. I hear they do std tests