2006-07-30 18:32:54 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sure is! lol... you most likely love him, but can't stand some of the things he does.. or the way he treats you or doesn't treat you... but then again maybe what you love is the person he used to be or the person you thought he was... until you got to know him much better.. then you got used to having him around...and though your not really happy... you stay...the thing is would you be happier without him? if you would perhaps it's time to find some one you love and actually enjoy being with... life is too short to be miserable..... my best wishes to you!
2006-07-30 18:39:58 · answer #1 · answered by Ms Fortune 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Definately an unhealthy relationship.. my best friend is in one of those MARRIAGES, they fight all the time, he's always making her feel like crap, he'll say really mean things to her over the phone when his friends are around and she hasnt done anything to get yelled about he does it to make her look bad, then she goes around and does everything to be spiteful to him, runs up the credit card bills and make him have to pay for it.. theyve both cheated on each other.. she hates him but the moment he talks about walking out the door she goes nuts, and visa versa, meanwhile the kids are watching all this hate, and acting out because of it.. then they point fingers at each other on why the kids are doing this.. its horrible.. ive never seen such an unhealthy relationship in my life.. he stays to have a maid and somene to take care of him, she stays for the paycheck, somewhere theres love, but mostly hate.. and vindictiveness.. lies, betrayal, disrespect.. its chaos.. and neither of them are happy.. so if this is what u want, go for it.. if not its best for u and possible kids in the future to stop the madness now.. and just break it off..
2006-07-31 01:53:24 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you could stay together you will teach yourself to love the things you hate.Then as more things to hate become apparent and progressively annoying or evil, you will have to learn to change to love those things too, or blame yourself because by now you will have an "investment". Eventually you will doubt yourself and possibly be old and alone with the self you now doubt, because you could forget what love is. (and he will always be free to leave you, no matter what or when) Its easier to sort out if in the back of your mind if you realize you are just doubting yourself (your judgement and feelings) and justifying what annoys you in him to stay with him and get any kind of comfort. Get a nice pet and give yourself some credit before you get too lost. There are plenty of other critters out doors who have passionate sex and then destroy each other, its not a specialty.
2006-07-31 02:33:04 · answer #3 · answered by golem's kind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No but its possible that you love the IDEA of a boyfriend and love and you want a relationship, he just isn't the guy. Lots of people do this, they take a guy thats handy and try to force him to fit the image of what they want him to be. It doesn't work. If you still have questions make yourself a list of what love looks and feels like, see if CAN'T STAND HIM shows up on there anywhere, I bet it doesn't.
2006-07-31 03:18:29 · answer #4 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible to love a boyfriend but can't stand him till the point you hate him. i am in that sort of stage right now.
2006-07-31 01:40:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TO LOVE or TO HATE is just aline in between them!Once you cross this line, your love will turn into hate! Because you love the person too much, you have all feeling for him/her.Do you hate a stranger? No! because you've got no feeling on him/her.It's none of your concern!
What is it, that you can't stand him? Just find that switch and turn it off! You don't have to hate anyone, if you have no concern over him/her. just leave him/her and forget about it. You're just torturing yourself with this memories! To LOVE is HAPPIEST!
2006-07-31 02:04:07 · answer #6 · answered by FIXIT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not really.
i can seem like it is that way, but you need to take a step back and think about do you really love the person?
or are you just used to being with them and comfortable with them?
an old pair of shoes that you don't like, but have worn for a long time and are comfortable are easier to walk in than a new pair of shoes - even tho you know you need a new pair and need to throw the old pair out.
2006-07-31 01:38:29 · answer #7 · answered by lexington_scoundrel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should take a better look at why you 'love' him. Is it because he is attractive? If you can't stand him, chances are that you don't like him for the right reasons.
2006-07-31 01:35:02 · answer #8 · answered by jsprplc2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely.... I wanted to kill my ex wife most the time but every time she looked at me a certain way my knees buckeled i have lots of other examples but basicaly what im saying is even a**holes can be lovable so dont worry you just have to learn your own way to make things work
2006-07-31 01:37:18 · answer #9 · answered by twistedlifesmysteries 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes... You love them but hate the person he's become??? Something like that.
2006-07-31 01:36:07 · answer #10 · answered by magesticmayhem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋