You won't ever be replacing your friend by no matter how many new friends you make.
So don't let that kind breaking thoughts weaken you.From the way you wrote your pain of parting from your best friend;you sound to be a real compassionate and loving person at heart.
For people like you,its best not to try to forget your "going far "friend but,to live the cherished moments you've spent with her at times when you really miss her...try to recreate that kind good times with people around.Don't wait to make new Friends around,try being happy whatever way you love it with people around you...the ones who are already known and friendly to you;they can be your siblings...parents....neighbours anyone.
Give them time,spend time with them sharing your likings and sharing their lives,soon you'll get so occupied with so many variety of people,who are just so near you,that you won't feel that you have to "work" at making new friends.
Good and near friends can be really anyone around you,whom you have not been able to give enough time and chance till date.
So don't feel low,promise your friend to keep in touch....and move on with life...it's going to be real full of smiles if you give it a chance.
Good luck!
2006-07-30 18:16:18
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answered by opinion 4
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You feel depressed (down), like nothing matters anymore or is worth it. The things that gave you pleasure don't do it anymore. When the feeling and pain gets large enough you want to die.
Depression is nothing to take lightly. Since it is all subjective its true affects are subtle and can be life changing.
Remember this, IT CAN ALWAYS BE WORSE. I am a lonely middle-aged man with an incurable disease that promises me nothing but pain for the rest of my life. I can't work any more; I am disabled and very poor. I suffer from strong depression and insomnia, which only makes the pain and depression worse. Yet I can find some things to be happy about and a reason to go on with my life. There are even some things that I look forward to.
Depression like yours is only temporary. School will start soon and you can meet new people and make new friends. Cherish the friends that you do have and maybe one of them will become your new best friend.
You have taken the first step you have reached out and admitted that you have a problem. If it gets worse then you will need help, and the best place to start with that is you current group of friends, then your parents. If that doesn’t work then contact your school counselor and they can provide some stronger help.
You can still keep in contact with your old friend that is moving away. With the Internet and places like My Place you can exchange emails, use Instant Messenger, even share pictures. Your friend may be a distance away, but you can still reach them and continue your friendship.
Look at what your former best friend did. Talk with them, start the conversation and let them know that you are hurt by what they did. Even friends have arguments, and they can make up and renew their relationship. If she was your best friend then she didn’t want to really stab you in the back. If however that is the case then forget them and move on. After high school comes college and you will be with a whole new group of people. Even if your former best friend goes to that college, college is a big place and you can avoid her.
Where does the friend that moved away plan on going to college, how about you? Maybe you can both go to the same college. Do your parents have airline miles on their credit card? Maybe you can plan a trip to see your friend next summer. If you were truly good friends then their parents wouldn’t mind putting you up for a few weeks. I know it is hard, but think outside of the box, and come up with an original solution. You are young and smart there is a lot you can do if you only put your mind to it.
If you have further problems with depression then contact me and I can provide some more suggestions.
2006-07-30 18:27:25
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answered by Dan S 7
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Just because you will make a new set of friends doesn't mean that you've replaced the old ones. The feelings of affection and love in each friendship are different. Besides, would your best friend want to you be sad and lonely? If she was a true friend, she would understand that both of you have to move on. One thing that you will learn as you get older is that sometimes, people change, whether you want them to or not. It's up to you as to how you react to the changes.
2006-07-30 18:16:56
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answered by Bastet's kitten 6
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I'm in a similar situation as you. I lost 2 friends because they turned out to be very untrustworthy. I'm very depressed and have just secluded myself from my whole family and my friends because I don't feel like being around anyone. It hurts them, and it makes me feel worse. So I'm pretty lonely. The only person that brings me happiness is the guy I am with. He's never let me down and he just makes me feel better. He is very good with me and spends time with me because he knows it makes me feel better. Then my family tries to break us apart so I don't have that happiness, they feel intimidated.
I can understand why you don't want to get more friends and it's not just because you don't want to replace her, but I believe your depressed feelings may make this harder to do. My advice would be to look deep into yourself and find something that makes you feel happy. Indulge! And I bet if you meet someone new, it wont replace her. Nothing can replace a great friendship, so just always think of her, and try to keep intouch.
Try to find a new hobby, and although this doesn't fix the issue of being alone, you can possibly use this time to get more intouch with yourself and spend time looking in rather than looking out.
2006-07-30 18:14:21
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answered by Seinfeld 4
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Hi there! It is normal to feel depressed when your good friend is moving away, but take heart! People do it all of the time and remain friends with whoever they moved away from. You won't forget her if you go and find a new friend, so don't worry. Give yourself some time to wallow, then go out and find someone else to do stuff with. Life is too short to spend it crying.... Good luck and God bless!
2006-07-30 18:08:27
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answered by The Nag 5
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First of all you can never replace or forgett a real friend. peolpe do not realize that their is a big difference between a Friend, and a REAL FRIEND. Areal friend would make sure you two stay in touch. And thanks to technology you can alaways stay in touch heck you can do practicaly any thing on these things. And if you dont have a computer then their is always the phone every one has one.do you get my point. and just so you know, the difference is a friend is just another nice name for someone you chill with but the real name for those poeple is associates. They know you, but they dont know you you tell them only so much, you dont allow them to get that close to you. But a REAL FRIEND, is someone who really knows you and you know them and both of you know that nothingcould ever take away what the two of you share. always remember that
2006-07-30 18:34:24
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answered by danika r 1
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hi first of all friends are like the shadow of us they r with us in our every joy and griefs so one thing is sure that we are alone without them as you said so but life doesn't mean lone if the friend is going away instead being sad make her feel happy and never forget god met both of you because he wanted and for sure he will make you meet someone else sooner and you just need to wait a bit for another good friend and i don't think its a bad deal at all.
2006-07-30 18:34:50
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answered by saurabh c 1
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I know is embarrising for me to say i can be your bestfreind am just kidding but you have to decide and move on or keep staying and please dont ever say that you feel lonely and deppresed am a single person am all by myself dont have no brothers or sisters and the only child i only live in a neighboorhood all by myself and dont have nobody else around meet new people and get together with old people you know and get together for now
2006-07-30 18:13:22
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answered by LUIS ROSA 4
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the best thing you can do is take up some things that you'll enjoy by yourself. as long as you keep in touch with your friend thats good. It doesn't hurt to make new friends because thats how life is about making new friends expanding best friends.also you must realize that in some day and point your going to have less thought of your friend when you are in a relationship with a guy.
2006-07-30 18:08:47
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answered by da skoolar 4
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Here is some silly advise for you.. Go get some ice cream it always puts a smile on my face, get you a pet to talk to when your lonely and make lots of friends. It isnt replacing the one you lost either its just adding to the ones you already have..
2006-07-30 18:10:36
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answered by twistedlifesmysteries 2
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