why is it that when men have many girls they're considered cool, by when visa-verse girls are called whores

Question

its kinda unfair. is it just society.???

Answer 1

It's called a double standard and it has existed for ages. I don't see it changing anytime soon either.

If a man beds a lot of women, it "proves" his manhood. I think it's really sad that they think that is the best way to prove they are men.

We women don't have to prove we are women by sleeping around. We just need to be ourselves.

Answer 2

It's not unfair. It is even. It is actually because of the rule of 3 that girls use. For every 1 girl a guy sleeps with they count it as 3 and for every 3 guys a girl sleeps with she counts it as 1. It all evens out in the end. Say a girl who says she slept with 3 people is called a whore. Really she has slept with 9 and is a whore. Now a guy who sleeps with 9 people is considered cool, but he has only slept with 3 girls anyways and that is cool. See, even.

Answer 3

Because men are not considered "cool" to have had many women. Contrary to what women tell one another, men do not idolize other men for being mansluts. Sure, we're impressed by people like Wilt Chamberlain and Gene Simmons, who claim their numbers somewhere in the thousands, but that's more of a matter of "Wow, ten thousand women? When do you sleep?"

In my experience, which is mostly casual observation with some textbook learning and behavioral study mixed in, lots of women have self-esteem problems. This is caused by other people (parents, peers, the media) telling them that they're not good enough, and that nothing they do will make them good enough. They then reassure themselves of their self-worth by criticizing other women. Obviously, not all women are this way, but people tend to soak in the behaviors of their friends and companions, so even one insecure and overly critical person can create a similar atmosphere in her whole group. This, of course, only perpetuates the cycle of a negative atmosphere where women feel that they're not good enough.

Men don't do as much of this because we tend to fixate more on outward achievements, such as promotions, sports cars, and Jet-skis. Those speak for themselves; they're either there or they're not.

My advice on the subject would be "Don't worry about it." People talk, but as long as you keep your nose clean, they'll eventually find somebody else to look down on. Your magic number is nobody's business but your own, and trust me, once you get out of high school, nobody will care. In fact, that goes for most things in the high school environment. Popularity, cliques, gossip, for most people it all dissolves the moment you toss your cap.

Answer 4

It's actually a double standard that has been researched by a number of sociologists...

Theories are that men are seen as "driven" with biological urges for sex and that women are expected to be the sexual gatekeepers to keep them in check or that men and women are taught two separate sets of sexual values which have persisted over time and are still passed down through generations although not necessarily spoken aloud are sometimes used as explanations.

I agree it is a total double standard and regardless of why it exists I think it's something we need to work to eliminate.

Answer 5

Well, it is certainly unfair, but there is a reason for it.

A man can "mate" with many women and have many children.
A woman can "mate" with many men, but she's usually going to have
one child per 9 months (more with twins, triplets, etc, but not a huge number).

If a woman has sex with a man but doesn't bare his child, and he spends
time, money and effort protecting him, he is wasting his resources.
That element of distrust will make him pretty paranoid.

On the other hand a woman is pretty sure that any child she has will
be hers - so she will never be wasting her resources. Her genes will
continue.

It always comes back to genes ;)

Answer 6

That bothers me soooo much!!!! I can't even begin to say how much it bothers me, although I've never been in the situation) It's unfair, yes, and stupid.
and if the girls aren't being called whores, then they're sluts..
or the guys are pimps..

I guess people like us just have to accept those kind of people.. : \


and basically everything the person above just said, you go girl!
lol

Answer 7

Because its just the way it is, men are meant to be all conquering and rough and tough etc etc, Women are meant to be ladies, any way when a man has sex all that happens it that he gets his wick wet, a women gets pentrated, filled with semem, a man doesnt get stuff left in his body, but a woman does so the more men women sleep with the dirtier she becomes, get it?

Answer 8

u see in this world its run by men(which is y this world is fuked up..look at everyting thats happenin)....hella men think that just cuz they have a dick in between their legs they have the right 2 be callin us hoes and whores. When ive run into men like that i fight and its even gone into fist fights(i always won). Men think they rule everting wen they dont rule ****. Men are just jelius and treat us this way cuz they know we are stronger and more intellegant than they are..so they try to maintain control of us ..So its our job to fight and send those fukers to hell

Answer 9

Men believe that because of how precious the womb is. It is the life giver and creator of the world. Its sad but true but women dont realize there worth and give it away so freely

Answer 10

well miss, i think its like this, I'm happy being married to my wife, but if i thought i was always eating something that was played with by everyone in town, i just simply would not like it anymore nor would i eat it ,and i would run away for ever, this being said maybe some clarity has been reached on your views on this,all men know that their are girls you marry and girls who are not for marriage because they have received alot of things a man just could not stand to eat.