Husband is trucker and I have 2 kids what would you do?

Question

Husband is a trucker and I have 2 kids and he is on the road for 6 days sometimes longer than that, and i have everything to do.(Take care of the bills, autos, yard, house, kids, pets, trash, laundry, housecleaning, etc.) And I was just wondering if there is other families with husbands that are doing this and does the wife feel like she is all alone or how would you handle some situation like this.

Answer 1

wow, you have gotten some pretty crappy responses. My husband went otr almost 7 years ago. I was 7 1/2 months pregnant with our third child. He was gone for almost 6 weeks for training before I got to see him. It's been the hardest thing in the world to do. For a few years I got him to take driving jobs in town but he didn't like the money. Two years ago he started driving heavy duty tow trucks. The company he works for goes all over the u.s. There are days that me or my 5 kids don't see him for almost a week. It sucks and I can't stand it. I wish he would quit and find something else.
It's too much to handle at times when you are taking on the responsibility of husband and wife. Mom and dad.
I love him dearly and wish he would understand that it's not about the money, it's about the home time.
I feel for you, it's hard, sometimes not fair, but they probably feel like they are doing what needs to be done for the family.

Answer 2

My husband used to sell cars and was gone for 13 hours a day. I did feel alone at first but I started doing my own thing. Get a good babysitter and take some time for yourself, the house will still be there when you get back. I made him take his clothes to the cleaners because I gave up ironing. I collect the trash in the house and set it by the door then he takes it our.

Let him know that you need some help and brainstorm. If the ideas are his he might do a few things to help.

Answer 3

male 50,i am a trucker too, was over the road,lost my first wife because of what your talking about,but she did go find someone else,got done over the road found a nice lady married her,still drive truck but home everyday, everything was great till she passed away 5 years ago,if you love him wait ,if not get out and find the right men,but you may have him he is just making a living for you and the family he loves,do you work or is it just the loneliness your going though

Answer 4

My husband was a truck driver till recently.. it was very hard on me at first, had to get use to it.. but my husband bought us nextel cell phones that had the walkie talkie part on it and we use to talk all the time while he was over the road and that helped alot..did i feel lonely, yeah most of the time..but it wasnt like he liked being over the road, he would of much rather been home with us..but he had a job to do, to provide for our family the best he could, and that was his job...sometimes my mom would babysitt for us, and id go with him, which i always thought that was pretty cool being with him in the truck..and it sucked to cause when he was home he was always exhausted .. But i married him knowing he was a truck driver, and i tried hard to focus not on the time that we were apart, but enjoying the time we were together...And i have to admit, he's off the road now, and i love my husband, but some days i long for him to be back over the road lol..

Answer 5

I think you should leave him some things to do when he gets home. You're not running a hotel. Maybe he can do the auto and the yard work and feed the kids on Sunday morning so you can have a break. He's not going to come up with this himself you're going to have to tell him......good luck.

Answer 6

at the same time as i turned right into a baby, my mom placed us to mattress at 7:30 till we were about 10 years old. We did not unavoidably could head to sleep, in protecting with se, yet we were in mattress at 7:30. This became oftentimes because of the particular undeniable reality that mom did not have a lot help from my father and he or she mandatory a spoil contained in the evenings. lets study quietly, carry out and communicate quietly (those who shared a room, at any price) and ultimately lets fall asleep... at the same time as it were given darkish. My 5 year old is going to mattress at 8/8:30, yet would not could upward push up till 8 am. in case you do not favor the time to your self contained in the nighttime, then 7:30 is too early. in case you do, then that's not. In different words, if that's about what's properly for you/him - 7:30 may be high-quality. If that's about what's wonderful for the youngsters... that's too early.

Answer 7

If he was doing this before you got married, then I would have to say "suck it up" and maybe get counseling. Why did you marry him? For all I know, he might be providing for the family as best he can, and he should have your support. Remember your wedding vows, and decide if you really meant them. If not, get a divorce and take the easy way out. Sorry if this sounds harse, but I truly believe this.

Answer 8

I was a trucker and we think of you all the time when we are gear jamming. The road gets very lonely. God loves trucker's wives

Answer 9

i'm a driver and have been for 10 years driving was one of the reasons i got divorced my ex got mad at me and cheated on me.trust me i know how hard it is for you at home but it is just as hard on us out there driving and trying to keep everyone happy not just you the wife but the company the d.o.t shipers and recivers.did your husband drive b4 you married or did he start after you got married? unfortunatly the trucking industry is hard on marriages so all i can do is wish you the bes and hope you don't end up like me divorced and alone

Answer 10

my dad is a trucker and sometimes i feel so bad for my mom cuz she has to deal with three teenage girls and one 11 yr old boy so i feel your pain