I'm strongly considering filing with child support to enforce my divorce judgment. My ex some months pays around a fifth of what he is supposed to pay, and some months nothing, yet he travels, has nice clothes, etc. etc. I worry that if I pursue this further, I will get more frustation and aggravation, since my ex is self-employed and very slippery, esp. when money is involved. Advice??
2006-07-30 17:37:56 · 18 answers · asked by joyfish 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
persue it now - collect evidence first so he ant wriggle out of it - photos / reciepts with his name on etc..
CSA - child support agency - supposedly stoppng in future to allow parents to sort maintance issues out themselves.
2006-07-30 17:40:22 · answer #1 · answered by schmushe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 15 yr. old son that I rarely received child support for, even though I had a court order. I didn't pursue child support for many years, because I didn't want to start any big fights. Now I am married with three other children (yes, 4 kids total!), and I felt it was unfair to my other three children and my husband to not pursue child support, when my oldest son's father was capable of contributing. Also, his father is very difficult to get along with, and to be honest, I preferred not having to deal with him at all. That was worth whatever pennies he might send my way. To make a long story short, at the beginning of this year I went through a private child support collection agency (there are several out there). They don't charge any money up front, they take their fees out of what they collect, and they do everything for you. I have been very happy with this. They do keep a percentage of what they collect, but it's worth it to me. Just a note - the non-custodial parent in my situation was over 50,000 dollars behind in child support for my son, so I'm not just some bitter ex looking to collect $$$. I just finally decided that in the end it was my son who was suffering by not having all the opportunities he deserved. I hope your situation works out. These things always seem to get ugly.
2006-07-31 01:01:00 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through a very similar situation years ago. My ex wouldn't pay child support. I worked 2 jobs to support my daughter and me. I tried taking him back to court TOO many times and the end result was the same. I spent a lot of time and money I didn't have with no satisfaction at all. My ex knew exactly how to play the game and eventually I came to understand it myself. Soooo....I waited, kept track of all the money he owed and just about 4 months before my daughter turned 18 I hired an agressive and fiesty female attorney to go after what he owed me. By this time that number was in the tens of thousands of dollars. He had assumed that I would never pursue the matter so he got comfortable with the situation. Then out of the blue he got served! When we went to court about it, he lost big time! He had to pay me every penny and the judge gave him 3 days to pay it or go to jail until I had been paid. On top of that, he had to pay all my attorney's fees. So, in the end, he did have to pay and it all but destroyed him financially and did end his then current marriage. His new wife wasn't about to take on his debt, or any part of it, to me. IT WAS THE BEST DAMNED THING I EVER DID! I'll never forget it and he certainly won't either!
2006-07-31 01:29:07 · answer #3 · answered by Cashmere621 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I want to make sure your ex isn't a drug dealer because that is a bad situation.
Next, the purpose of child support is to help you pay for your children's lives. Now you need to get an idea of what your husband makes so you can determine how much money he can possibly contribute. If he can't pay it than it doesn't make sense. If he can then you must get the courts involved. He should at least contribute to your child's future. If your rich and he is poor then well, leave the guy to be a slime ball and forget him.
2006-07-31 00:44:54 · answer #4 · answered by emtyen69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop considering it and do it. He has a legal obligation to support his children. If you know his SSN, then file it with child services. They will do the paperwork and go after his wages and income taxes. Submit to them his business. There is no tolerance when it comes to Deadbeat parents. The laws are there to make it so.
You should be able to find your state's Child Support Enforcement office in the phone book.
Don't hesitate! He needs to pay!
2006-07-31 00:47:28 · answer #5 · answered by Twisted Maggie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a huge pain in the backside-but worth it. Why should he get to have nice things and do whatever he wants while you provide everything for the kids? Keep lots of records, where he's working (or for who). Have as much info as possible, especially his current address. File the contempt charges. He may get mad, but you will make your point. I have had my ex-husband's drivers license suspended, his professional license suspended-He can't make money if he has not license to run a business (or work as a sub-contractor). If you start hurting his means to make money-he will start to pay it or face charges of contempt and possible jail time. It will be worth it in the long run.
2006-07-31 15:53:12 · answer #6 · answered by stacilynn26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just curious, without the sperm donor's money are you able to live comfortably? Now having said that, I am a firm believer in if they are able and do not they should be made to rue the day that they ignored the child or children.....self employed or not IF HE FILES TAXES YOU CAN LEAN I MEAN LIEN ON HIS *** ETS!!
It might be frustrating and aggravating, but it's not about your welfare, it's about the child/children
2006-07-31 00:45:33 · answer #7 · answered by Jdubyathree 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Child support enforcement is free so by all means contact them. My attorney has me call then at least once a month but so far it has done me no good whatsoever, so it is just kind of the perfunctory phone call I make; maybe someday...I do not expect the money nor do I count on it. He is too busy with his new young wife, her kids, and their drugs and alcohol problems.
He pays nothing on a $480.00/mopnth order....
2006-07-31 00:41:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES YES YES it works!! get his EXACT employment info and provide it to the child support department and they will garnish his wages and if he falls behind with them then they wWILL suspend his liscence and they will tack on tons of interest all going to you and your kid(S). the child support department will do all the steps even if he owns his own LEGAl company if it is all under the table money then it will be harder to gfet hard cash but there will still be a set amount charges to him every month and it will be up to him to pay or not and if he doesnt pay for like 5 or 6 montths and gets pulled over he will be arrested for driving on a suspended liscence!! it is worth it my sons dad ended up paying after getting arrested for driving on a suspended license and they started garnishing his wages!! just remember he will have 50% custody to but only if he pays if he doesnt he legally has no rights to the kids if hes not paying his child support!! GOOD LUCK!!
2006-07-31 00:53:31 · answer #9 · answered by kartoon529 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes definately go after him, he is just as accountable of a father as u are as a mother.. get the judgement through the courts, then have him have to pay through the state, that way when he doesnt pay they will go after him for u, they will take away his license, his car registration, they will take any tax refund, ect.. id definately go for it.. good luck
2006-07-31 01:04:25 · answer #10 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pursuit it! He owes that to your kids! I went through all that and wasn't very luck...he got arrested a few times, but still only ever paid $320. He finally signed over his rights, on the condition that i forgave him the $3500 that he owed ...and i did just to make sure the *** would never be in my son's life...he's in jail now
2006-07-31 00:47:41 · answer #11 · answered by Julie W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋