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He is closeted and when I go to see him usually I get a motel and he comes over and spend not more then an hour or two with me then he's gone. He says he will be back but never does. He is a mama's boy so his parents are very protective of him. I have to travel an hour to see him and he makes promises to see me but when it comes time to do it he backs out with an excuse everytime. He's only been to my place once. He puts his friends in front of me and I've broken up with him about three times already but he refuses to allow it to happen. I haven't seen him in about 2 months. I've messed around on him with 2 guys since then. He doesn't know this. Am I justified?- Guilty Conscious

2006-07-30 17:31:54 · 23 answers · asked by doldemite 2 in Society & Culture Cultures & Groups Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender

23 answers

To answer the question, No I would not cheat... HOWEVER, I agree with the majority here... You do not have a relationship, therefore you wouldn't be cheating. So let yourself off of the hook.
Now, in order to get past this guy, stop communicating with him. I know it will be hard, cause it sounds like you've really got it bad for him. But it never hurts to play "Hard-to-get". Let him come looking for you, and oops if he accidentally catches you enjoying another guys company. Maybe if he gets a little jealous, he'll get with the program. If not, you can move on with the guy he caught you with, and he may get the point that he is replaceable. Good Luck

2006-07-30 18:05:40 · answer #1 · answered by taterliquor 3 · 2 0

"i've broken up with him about three times alrady and he refuses to allow it to happen"

I dont think youre in a good relationship. Its kind of one sided dont you think.? He is not ready to have a relationship because he is closeted and for all i know he is just using you for protection and incase he is horny. Infact, even if he's closeted he should know by now how to treat a relationship and how to give priorities to certain things. But that depends of what you guys mutually agreed to do things.
If you've cheated on him and you havent seen him in two months, you should tell him only if you still love him and vice versa. Your confession should be 70% truth and no lies. Dont go overboard.

2006-07-31 00:55:22 · answer #2 · answered by savio 4 · 0 0

well I don't think there is any excuse for cheating, with STD's and everything it is really just to risky.

However it sounds like this is certainly not the relationship for you, you need someone who will put in the the same amount of time and energy into the relationship as you do.

Good luck, and right now it might be hard but just do what is going to make you happy in the long run.

2006-07-31 03:12:58 · answer #3 · answered by ak23boi 3 · 0 0

well last time I checked you dont need someone to allow you to break up with them. And from the sounds of it you dont really have a relationship in which you can cheat on him, honey sounds like he's using ya for booty calls that are convenient for him, and forgets about ya after they are over!sorry to be so blunt about it, but you are misleading yourself badly here,one more thing"break up" one last time and then no more contact, that way you cant be told what you are aloowed to do, GOOD LUCK and being in the closet is the sorriest excuse for treating other people like crap

2006-07-31 00:40:00 · answer #4 · answered by Jen B 3 · 0 0

no you're not justified. cheating is wrong,end of story. i understand why you did. the problem is you're in a non-relationship. it's been over for 2 months but you don't see that. this is a very unhealthy situation. step out of this dark space and come out into the sun. break it off, then you can sleep with as many guys as you want (safely) but by sneaking around and lying you cheapen yourself. it worries me that you'd let someone walk over you like that. you don't need someone to complete you love yourself unconditionally and great things will come into your life.......good luck!!!

2006-07-31 04:35:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I would never ever cheat. I've been cheated on and it's one of the worst things I think a person can do in a relationship--it's betrayal on so many levels...

What you should do is that if you don't want to be with him...BREAK UP with him...and it's not his decision as far as "letting you" break up with him. It's your life, tell him it's over and MAKE IT BE OVER!

THEN you can start seeing other people...

2006-07-31 02:58:52 · answer #6 · answered by musikurt 4 · 0 0

Get a life, get some fun, and loose this jerk...he is ashamed of himself, and of you. If you have no self respect, then continue. He has none for himself,....don't fall into his world..it sucks (or doesn't , as the case may be.) Let him live his lie ..why would you possibly want to join in that kind of lifestyle. ugggg. You can get anyone...why waste your time with a real zero?

2006-07-31 00:38:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Ummm if you havent seen him in 2 months its over....

Find your self a good man and move on!

Theres plenty of fun to be had out there then worry about this stuff! Enjoy!

2006-07-31 00:35:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

It is not right but just break up with him if you refuse to go see him after you say you are through then what is he going to do about it nothing move on & findanother man that is worthy of you... Good luck

2006-07-31 00:38:29 · answer #9 · answered by s_haggard00 3 · 0 0

I would tell him that at this point, you consider that you are not
in a committed relationship - you are seeing other people because
you don't feel you can count on him and you aren't seeing him
enough.

Tell him that simply saying he will do better goes against his track record.

If he chooses to no longer see you, I don't see it as much of a loss from
your point of view.

2006-07-31 00:35:56 · answer #10 · answered by Elana 7 · 0 0

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