i think i have issues that i need help with?

Question

i was in a relationship with a girl for two years and ended about 3 years ago. we were really happy together unti this other girl started working in my office and she started giving me "the signs".
i am realy strugling to get over this girl even though it was me who ended the relationship to be with someone else. yep, that didnt even last 3 weeks and when i realised my mistake it was to late and she had moved on to a rebound relationship. what bothers me the most is that i now know and believe that she is the best person on earth and she has forgiven me but she does not want to try again. she has never dissed me or bad-mouthed me with her friends or family and she doesnt tollerate it if anybody else does.


please help me with tips on (preferably) how to get her back, or on how to get over her and forget her as she and my memmories of her are ruining every other relationship thet i try and get into

Answer 1

Get her to talk it out with you. Try to talk about the good times and remind her of them. Take it very Slowly and give plenty of space. Don't seem to needy but let her know you will always be there for her no matter what. And remember to compromise with her no matter what! She made need space for a while and may not fully trust you yet(due to you seeing someone else). Build the trust back up. If she truly sees things the same way she will come back to you. Space,time,compromise and building trust are the big factors with making this work. Remember if you love something let it go and fly if it comes back to you it was yours all a long. hope this helps best of luck!!

Answer 2

I think you need a "dry spell"...why do you feel you must have a relationship all the time? Take time to be your own man. Get to know yourself. Have some time that you can "get it all together." Go fishing, RELAX. Take it easy. Make up your mind that you can enjoy life without being half of a relationship. You will be amazed at how many girls want a man who is so self assured! Maybe even the original.

Answer 3

Don't date any one else, send flowers take it slow you hurt her bad and it won't be easy you take a long term relationship and threw it out the window on a whim it won't be easy. Day by day be her friend show it every day you care. No Pressure, call, cards, flowers, you have to gain once again honesty, trust....If this doesn't work then take it as a lesson learned well and don't throw a long term relationship to the side so fast to find its only a fling. the girl should be your best friend first then your lover... Good Luck Hun Hope you the best.

Answer 4

I don't know how to make things speed up for you, but in time you will be alright. The reason you can't get a new relationship going is because you are not giving yourself time to heal. I know you won't want to hear it, but give yourself six months to a year before you start out again. Who knows in that time maybe she'll see you with new eyes. I'm sorry this happened to you, but don't forget to heed the lesson. It will save you alot of heartache in the future. Good luck to you...I'll be thinking of you.

Answer 5

I think that you will probably have to chalk this one up to experience. The fact is, "A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush." If you are in a relationship and there are no problems, don't go flying off with the first first bird that lands in your tree.

It's going to be harder to find someone else like the one you lost, but you must go on.

Answer 6

It sounds like you admire your former girlfriend's good qualities. You should imitate them yourself. She is not the only good woman in the world, but you messed up with her. Learn from your mistake not to betray a faithful friend for short-term gain. Your only chance to get her back is to become as awesome and good as she is. You may not get her back even if you do, but you will have a much better chance to find somebody as wonderful as she is, and not to mess up in the future.