I'm dating a guy from India and he does not have his greencard
I feel like he push me very much for marriage...I am american and am afriad maybe he just want his status
what should i do????
2006-07-30 16:45:37 · 18 answers · asked by Amanda L 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
hello know of two woman that married man so that did not have their citizenship.both thought they found the man of their dreams. but both of them were treated like garbage and by the 5th year no longer living with the men. they both waited out the remaining 2 years because they felt compelled to finish what they started. they both hated the man, and ended up wasting 7 to 8 years of their lives. so please run do not waste your time.
2006-07-30 17:23:23 · answer #1 · answered by rap1361 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As everybody above said i would be very careful.
I recently had a very bad experience with someone who i suspect wanted his green card..
if he is in love with you you should tell him this: I will marry you AFTER you get your greencard on your own. If he cannot get his greencard on his own: don't marry him. period.
he can easily marry you for the two years that he needs and divorce you and marry who he really wants to marry. Think about it; it happens all the time !
Don't be stupid on this one; some people are very cunning and sneaky; you do not understand other cultures. They will be nice to you and you think that this means they like you. They can hate you with a smile ! Trust me i've lived with them a long time !
If i were you I would break up with him. I would then call the US Immigration department and report him-you can do this anonymously. Do you suspect he has a wife? Maybe in the US or in India? Make certain you give the US Immigration Dept that information, too. You can make sure this scumbag never gets a chance.
Don't waste your time on losers
I agree with what the girl above said : Get with an American ! At least you know who you are dealing with !!
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2006-07-30 16:58:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm dating a swedish guy without a greencard,he doesn't want to marry,I think I'll go to Sweden with him,even tho....I don't care about legal marriage,if he loves me like I think he does,I'd settle for a marriage just in the eyes of friends,family and God.Aceremony and all would be excellent.I've talked about aption but he thinks we're too old-50!
2006-07-30 16:57:57 · answer #3 · answered by moonsailordoreen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to find out if he really likes you for who you are or if he just wants to get a green card through you. If you both like each other, then that's good. But if not, then maybe it's not such a good idea because it may just end in divorce later on if you don't like each other.. If he is pushing you for marriage when you don't feel ready, then he can be more interested in a green card than you. If he is interested in you, he would care about how you feel and not push you into marriage or things that you don't want to do. You shouldn't rush into a marriage just because you feel pushed to do so... If he truly loves you, he will care about what you feel. If not, then he may be interested in the green card or something else. Just don't let him use you. It is also illegal to marry for immigration benefits and if you divorce shortly after you get married, you can also get into trouble. So, you should really be careful about it.
2006-07-30 16:51:47 · answer #4 · answered by Raines 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think marriage alone gives someone a greencard anymore.
My girlfriend married a man from guatemala and they have 2 children together and he can not get his either.
2006-07-30 16:49:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend who did that and she got badly burned. Got his greencard and then they divorced. I am not really sure what happened then as she moved away and we lost contact with each other. He never loved her, she loved him...just made itconvenient for him. Just be careful.
2006-07-30 16:52:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is against the law to marry for the purpose of immigration. It will look very suspicious if you were to divorce before you were married less than two years and you could end up causing you lots of trouble. My advice is why take a chance that his feelings for you are not genuine. true love will wait for the green card.
Good luck and may the sun shine on you .
2006-07-30 16:56:43 · answer #7 · answered by johnnyzts 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, marry him. If not don't. I wouldnt let his status as an immigrant stop me from marriage. If you are thinking that his status is what makes him want to marry you, I'd be very wary.
2006-07-30 16:48:13 · answer #8 · answered by Starry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey he'll marry you, get his green card, leave you, go back to India and marry a nice virgen Indian girl, they all do that. Have you ever seen the advertisement for brides or grooms? Example ...nice indian boy green card holder engeneer or doctor looking for nice indian girl... run as fast as you can
Ps. if you marry him you are marrying the hole family, mother in law moves in as soon as she can your bank account belongs to the family
2006-07-30 16:51:47 · answer #9 · answered by Manera 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're probably being used for him to get citizenship here. Can't you just date a nice American boy?
2006-07-30 16:48:11 · answer #10 · answered by nbinthahouse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋