we are just 2 months together but we have been bestfriends for 2 years, i want to tell her that i want to marry her someday and be the mother of my kids in the future :) is it ok to tell her this things?
i really love her sooo much :)
by the way im 21 and she's 22 so we're not kids anymore
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2006-07-30 16:34:13 · 4 answers · asked by itsyouitsme 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's not "wrong" to tell her these things if you really want to. But even if you aren't kids anymore, you're also unlikely to know what you want for the rest of your life. Wait to tell her that you want to marry her until you're close to being prepared to give her a ring and propose, and let the kids follow from that. Otherwise, it'd just words.
2006-07-30 16:45:25 · answer #1 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I admire a man who recognizes what he wants when he sees it. And while I admire that, I am afraid to come right out and tell her all of the above information after dating only two months might overwhelm her and scare her off.
Here's an idea - sit down and write all of the things that you want to say to her. Now pick out the two that really should be said first and can lead to the rest. I imagine the first things you would say to her should be that the time spent together is the best time of the day or something like that. If she is receptive and agrees with you, then the next day you can mention the second thing - maybe that you are crazy about her. She how she reacts to that.
Keep this up and about three times a week tell her more and more of your feelings. Never go beyond the boundaries she sets up. You can tell the boundaries by her reactions to the things you say.
By following a scale it will not take the romance out, but will give her time to think about each stage of the relationship. I am very concerned that telling her too much too fast could ruin things for you.
I recommend a book about this type of thing: Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. Read about the stages in a relationship. It may give you ideas about how to go slowly.
2006-07-30 16:57:44 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say give it A little more time and then tell her this way you dont get your hopes up if it doesnt last but show her in the little things you do for her
2006-07-30 17:17:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u 2 r really bf, you shouldn't have to ask us for advice abt this
2006-07-30 16:41:28 · answer #4 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋