Whats your opinion on sex before marriage?

Question

I am doing a report and am looking for others opinions on the topic.

Answer 1

first off my opinion is going to sound a lot like wardancer. think what happens now is that people jump in the sack and find that are having great sex, so they base their relationship on sex. instead of finding out who the person truley is. you are not going to find out a persons beliefs while having sex. you will never know if the believe in a close family, work , how to handle money, raising children , romantic or not, personality if you are not interacting with them. so these people have great sex and "fall" in love. get married start having problems and all they have to fall back on is great sex. which can not solve any problems. have you ever heard any one say do not know their spouse after they are married? that is because they did not take the time to know them before hand. here is a recent story about how newlyweds do not have sex on the first night. maybe because it is all ready old to them.

http://www.signonsandiego.com/uniontrib/20060525/news_1c25wednight.html

Answer 2

There are a lot of reasons why its a good idea to wait..... if a man genuinely loves and respects you he will want to make u his wife and not waste any time about it. A woman tends to form attachments to the men they sleep with, where men tend to move on once they have had their way with you, then its on to the next conquest. It is in a mans nature desire a challenge. Trust me ...he wants to work for it....and at first that's all it is about.....but something happens along the way...given a substantial challenge...he forms an attachment to you. The attachment turns to love and when u do finally consummate your relationship hes acquired the prize....and because he has had to wait it is so much more intense emotionally and physically...kinda like a steak when you are starving....it could be a hamburger but to him its the finest fillet Mignon he ever had...and guess what HES NOT SHARING!!!!

Then there are the no brain-er reasons ....like STD and aids.
See...god created us so he knows our make up and there are so many levels why the bible recommends abstinence until marriage..I do believe this is primarily for the young and of course i believe its primary purpose, to foster healthy secure monogamous relationships for life...

Answer 3

the problem in todays society is no one has any respect for promises and commitments anymore ... "if your not happy who cares about a promise" is the attitude. The idea that marriage is a promise forever is not even understood by those saying it anymore ... so yeah, my idea of it is if you are with a person and ready to make a commitment for life then say your promises and formalize it later. the idea to "test drive" a person to see if you like sex with them is totally wrong and is modernistic thinking and i think its been proven time and again to be erroneous thinking. anyone that has been in a relationship for some time will get bored, mad, and otherwise have difficulties with sex at one point or another and a complete focus on sex as being the most important part of a relationship is a lie. If a person is truley ready to commit to another and make sacrifices to keep that comittment and promise, then i say go for it ... just bumping uglies to see if you like another person is dead wrong and leads to many problems in life.

Answer 4

ok here is my opinion if you are just boy friend/girl friend then sex before marriage may turn into a mistake you regret for the rest of your life -because even if you think you will be with them - they may not feel the same way- and even with all the precautions in the world pregnancy is still a risk as is the risk of deadly STD's

casual sex is definately something that will be regretted by 99% of all woman, although I do think guys dont care as much because sex isnt as emotional as it is with women BUT when either one does marry they do kinda wish their partner was their first - nobody wants to think that their wife/husband had been with many partners prior to them...

now suppose you are engaged and KNOW its a for sure thing then this is ok but its a personal decision and I cannot say its ok for everyone becuase ideally its best to wait but this is not a perfect world...

Answer 5

In behalf of the Bible, which God says fornication is wrong, I agree with God. God says his laws are for our benefit. Generally, the right thing to do, which is so rare, is to date chaperoned. Talk allot, get to know the person and their true qualities. Actually, if you go out in groups before dating and observe their true colors, you are less likely to be fooled, by your own rose colored glasses, and the extra nice front people tend to *put on* for a while.

Anyway, to God, people do not have the legal right to sex with another, until marriage. It is considered greedy, and showing a lack of respect for the moral and spiritual cleanness of the other person, in other words, a lack of true love, and an indulgence in lust.

The world today promotes immorality anytime and anywhere and with anyone. It is a sad mess.

In the Bible Rebekah was picked out for Isaac by God, and they fell in love and had God's blessing. That's the way to go!! (Genesis 24)

A good relationship is built on respect and trust. Fornication breaks that down.

Answer 6

it used to work for me but now i'm realizing that sex before marriage isn't a good thing in my case( not everyones). sex becomes a big focus in a relationship before marriage. I look at it like this if your havin sex you aint talking getting to know more about the other. who knows the time you spent having sex might have been the time he sliped up and said he was into cheating and ya might miss it if ya going boom boom. if your gonna marry somone makes sense to get as much out of them you can . plus the sexlife lasts longer cause it's newer if ya wait for marriage.

Answer 7

I'm completely okay with it, as long as people are mature and be safe about it (birth control, condoms, etc). I hate seeing stupid teenagers get knocked up and ruin their lives (and trust me, my high school had plenty of those). Myself, I am 17 years old and still a virgin. I am waiting until I'm in a serious relationship. I've only had the opportunity a few times with this one guy, but I turned him down because we weren't dating (just "friends-with-benefits"). I want to wait 1) until I'm in a relationship with someone and 2) until I'm 18 and legal (which is in about a month). I don't care if other people sleep around (as long as they do it safely) but it's not for me.

Answer 8

Sabrina, if a man loves you, then he will wait until he marries you. You see by doing so he is telling you that not only he respects you and Gods commands but he loves you and will always be faithful to you in marriage because in his mind sex is only done in marriage with their wife.

Answer 9

Sex before marriage is a must. If you get married and and find out you are not sexually compatible with the person, you're screwed!

Answer 10

I agree with it and I participate in this practice. The only difference between a wife and a girlfriend is a ring, being married doesn't change anything.