There Is A Girl I Want To Ask Out But I'm Afraid That If She Doesn't Like Me Back Are Friendship Would Sink Like The Titanic. I'm Hope You Guys Can Help Me Out. Please!!
2006-07-30 16:17:14 · 11 answers · asked by homie6065 1 in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
There are 4 different possible scenarios: 1) she says no, and the friendship ends; 2) she says yes, you date and things end, you lose the friendship, 3) she says no, you remain friends, but you have to swallow your unrequited love until you can't take it anymore, 4) she says yes and you live happily ever after. 3) is the actually the worst scenario in terms of how painful it can become, so staying friends is not always the best result.
Is there any way to guarantee that things won't go south? No. But then again, there's never any guarantee that any friendship or relationship won't go south either. The best thing is to be sure about your decision (a decision that best serves your needs) and stick to it, come what may.
Generally speaking, if you're a great person, you have a great frienship, and she doesn't want to date you, there's something wrong with her anyway, so no worries.
2006-07-30 16:25:42 · answer #1 · answered by bluenile08 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Well You just said you are already friends. So say hey lets go see a movie or hang out with some friend or...their no pressure. You will know when it's more than friends but the words are not there and then just say hay I'm ready to go a step further can we like not see other people in the dating since and take it slow and go from there. Friends is the basis if a real good relationship but take it slow cause the tests in life are great and you need your best friend to be there through it all. Good Luck:-)
2006-07-30 23:26:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well a good relationship should branch off of a friendship. First, try to find out in a secretive way if she likes you back. If so, make sure to spend a lot of time with her and make her feel comfortable and accepted by you. Then, procede to ask her out of course, you'll never figure out where your relationship could lead to if you don't bother asking. If she says no, don't let it affect your friendship, just shrug it off and accept it. It'd be better to discard the fact that she's not looking for a romantic relationship with you and remain friends without creating a rift in your friendship.
2006-07-30 23:22:21 · answer #3 · answered by DreamingOfAttack 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should start by asking her on a date, but not calling it a date. Just say "Hey, do you want to go to ____ on Friday night?" Have it be just the two of you, and see how she acts around you when it isn't a group thing, and then go from there. After spending more time with her alone, you might get a better sense of if it would ruin your friendship. I'd stay away from the "do you want to be my girlfriend" type of question for a while.
2006-07-30 23:22:39 · answer #4 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm inclined to think that friendship is more important than dating at your time of life. It doesn't sound like you want to marry the girl or anything like that; so if she is worth keeping as a friend, don't ruin it. You could still do date-like things such as going to a dance, as long as it is on a friendly basis. This way you keep her friendship and if, when you get older, something more serious develops, you are better off.
2006-07-31 00:42:55 · answer #5 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck dude ! That never works out right like you think it should. Weigh whether its worth a physical/intimate relationship against the friendship you have now. Like I said : IT never works out to where you can be "just friends" again.
2006-07-30 23:27:03 · answer #6 · answered by frith25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your friend are close then just ask her to acompany you somewhere like Hardee's or something. Don't ask her on "a date". That'd freak her out maybe. Just look into her eyes alot and if she looks at you back maybe talk a little bit and make her laugh. If she shows signs of liking you back then hold hands or something. If you've been friends forever like me and my friend have then things might work out better. Don't do anything like holding hands yet unless she shows signs of liking you back. That might freak her out. All of these other answers are all right so just make sure she likes you back and don't do anything physical on her too soon. Wish you lots of luck! :)
2006-07-30 23:31:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people who want to be more than friends...if it doesn't happen usually the friendship is still in tact. A friend should be flattered and maybe even feels the same.
2006-07-30 23:24:14 · answer #8 · answered by Elwood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do something casual and low pressure. A great relationship needs to start as a friendship.
2006-07-30 23:21:08 · answer #9 · answered by therego2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry, but you don't. the relationship will be weird if she doesn't like you but knows you like her. make sure she likes you back before you ask her out. otherwise, there's agood possibility it won't work out.
2006-07-30 23:21:47 · answer #10 · answered by thunderwear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋