2006-07-30 16:10:08 · 19 answers · asked by Cudaman71 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Been togeather 3 years, had sex before. Recently stopped with all sexual contact, plus anything affectionate.
2006-07-30 16:54:42 · update #1
be glad you have a girl with some class
2006-07-30 16:12:55 · answer #1 · answered by rogue chedder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too many unknown variables here to tell (is she a virgin who's got very specific ideas about her first time? did she have a bad sexual experience in the past and is scared now? does she have strict religious beliefs? has she always been like that or did things cool down recently?) You gotta go ahead and ask her (nicely) why she doesn't seem to want to touch you in any way (tell her it hurts you and makes you feel rejected). See if she has a good reason or comes up with a lame excuse. But do NOT buy into "everything is gonna be different after the wedding" - if she had passion for you she would already express it somehow. Careful, man, you don't want to end up being married to somebody who would do it once a month, and only if you beg for it.
2006-07-30 23:26:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anastasia A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters, why do you want to have sex with her?
Are you 2 happy when she is not sexually active with you? Do you need sex to keep the relationship going? If yes, then probably she made the right choice.
Courtship and sex are not meant to go together, it is marriage and sex. Courtship with sex CAN bring about another dimension of possible emotional abuse and crowds the mind to clear relationship thinking.
2006-07-30 23:14:38 · answer #3 · answered by choy_daniel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been dating for quite a while and she is all ready like this then break up with her because if she is this way all ready then it will only get worse unless she has just started being your girlfriend maybe she is not comfortable if its a new relationship sometimes we need time before we start this but if you have been dating for a while then give her up you deserve to have this in your relationship everyone does.
2006-07-30 23:15:37 · answer #4 · answered by i love my dog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want advice on how to get her to have sex with you?? Well.. if she isnt ready but you push it, then you are only going to make her not trust you. But about the affectionate part, if she is your gf then she should show some kind of affection or you are just wasting your time.
2006-07-30 23:13:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that depends on your age. If you're under 18, then maybe she wants to wait until marriage or until she's of legal age. If you and her are over 18, then maybe she's not interested anymore, is in some kind of pain and embarrassed to tell you, or maybe she's waiting for you to be romantic and affectionate towards her first.
2006-07-30 23:29:10 · answer #6 · answered by venus11224 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably still in Love with someone she used to date. Or maybe she's not being faithful thats the only reason I can think of.
2006-07-30 23:15:33 · answer #7 · answered by flutterby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes... dump her. if shes not affectionate towards you, theres a problem. dont even think twice about dumping her, cause nothing could come of a relationship where both people are not thououghly affectionate towards each other...
2006-07-30 23:12:50 · answer #8 · answered by mdrieber00013 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask her what she wants sexually. It took me 25 yrs to figure that my problem was I was too aggressive. It hurt her.
2006-07-30 23:14:13 · answer #9 · answered by Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should try to be more romantic
find out things that turn her on and do them
try very romatic things... chocolate covered strawberries, walks on the beach, cook her some dinner...
worst case: may have lost feelings for you, cheating
2006-07-30 23:13:14 · answer #10 · answered by iWorkonComputers 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is probably scared and you should respect that . That being said you you should hold her hand and kiss her and lead her she may be going on your lead.
2006-07-30 23:13:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋