I MET ONE AND HAD ANOTHER ONE ALREADY. NOW I SEE BOTH OF THEM, AND NEITHER ONE KNOWS OF ANOTHER. IS IT A TIGHT SECRET THAT'S GOING TO LAST LONG. I LOVE THEM BOTH.
2006-07-30 15:50:40 · 38 answers · asked by You're giving it all away! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you were to find out that one of these men loved you as you do him, but also loved another and saw her when not with you, how would you feel? If you're fine with it, then that is your choice, but you at least owe it to them to let them know you are not in an exclusive relationship with them. Love has no place for deception.
2006-07-30 15:53:04 · answer #1 · answered by practical thinking 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on your question, there are one of two (or both) things going on here. 1) The first one may not give you what you need (emotionally or otherwise) so you are seeking out a second one to fill that gap. 2) There are some unresolved issues within yourself to make yourself get into this kind of situation. The way I see it, you are playing with fire here. I assume the guys think the relationship with you is exclusive, so when they find out, there is going to be some sort of trouble. A serious heart to heart talk with one of them (Or both but at seperate times of course) about how you feel is in order. It may be uncomfortable however, it will be no where near the pain and discomfort when they find out the hard way.
2006-07-30 16:02:40 · answer #2 · answered by acedelux 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. That's an awful thing that you are doing to both men.
2. Would you appreciate it if this was being done to you?
3. Selfishness is not a choice, you must choose only ONE man and break-up with the other.
4. It may be hard coming to a decision, but you can't toy with someone else's life.
5. What goes around comes around, so I'd be careful.
2006-07-30 15:58:44 · answer #3 · answered by afanofnataliewood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can do whatever you want... but you have to be able to accept the consequences. Playing this love triangle game is only going to have one ending and it will most likely be with you being alone. You like them both so it will be hard to pick which one you are more into... but you should choose as soon as possible before the whole thing becomes more complicated.
And trust me... men can be just as vindictive as a jilted woman can, so be careful.
2006-07-30 15:55:27 · answer #4 · answered by Whatev' Yo' 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being selfish.If neither man knows about the other one then I assume neither one would be happy if they found out.You need to decide which one you like better and dump the other one because if you don't and they find out they will be gone and you will be asking,what went wrong? up here soon. All good things must come to an end.
2006-07-30 16:18:32 · answer #5 · answered by Katherine B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First if you already had one then either you love him enough to stay with him or cut him loose and find someone else..sometimes we get into relationships and down the road something seems like it is missing so we search for that one person who will lighten up our life in that area..Is that what happened? Well,,one ? I do have...Are you married? If so then if your marriage is over to you then plz divorce your husband then seek another...One day they will both find out..It always happens is how i found out when my husband had me and a girlfriend..Trust me that hurts worse when someone you love is cheating on you for whatever reason...if you are not married then you need to ask yourself...Would you want them to do that to you? God bless
2006-07-30 15:57:49 · answer #6 · answered by glowworm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it wont last long! Someone is going to get hurt out this situation. Y did U start seeing someone else if you already had someone. I feel sorry for the first guy. Sooner or later you will get hung when the rope gets long enough..
2006-07-30 15:54:00 · answer #7 · answered by Hi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It won't last. You will either get caught, loose interest in one, feel guilty, or find a third guy who has something that the other does not. Just don't "be" with one if this is what you want to do. Just "date" them all, then there is no harm done if it isn't serious.
2006-07-30 15:54:46 · answer #8 · answered by Diamonds_4Ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not right and you can't keep seeing them both!! How would you like to find out that you are number two to one of them. Put yourself in their place.
2006-07-30 15:55:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u must choose one. weigh. the compatibility, security, love of each of them to u. . . if u love them bothe, who loves u most? choose the one who loves u best, cares for u, and the one who can give u a nice fjuture ahead and the one who takes u seriosly. ok? i hope God almighty will guide u in choosing who's the lucky guy.
2006-07-30 15:56:44 · answer #10 · answered by lormik2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋