Why am I So shy?

Question

It's not like I don't have anything to say, its just that I just feel stupid saying things... I dunno. I HATE BEING SHY!

Answer 1

There are lots of shy people in the world. Some people just have a quiet nature. It is the worst when you are young and in high school and everyone comments on it (I used to hate when people would say, "Oh, your just so quiet" as if I didn't know that already). When you get older, people will REALLY appreciate you because you will actually be able to listen to them, rather than running off your own mouth. So, don't be so down on yourself. You're fine just the way you are:)

Answer 2

You need to develop self confidence. I used to be horribly shy to the point it interferred with my job. One day I was giving a speaking program for 300 people. I dressed as perfectly as possible, I had only a few note, gave myself permission to say "I don't really know but I will call you with an answer", told them to hold questions till I was done, and only looked around the room at their ears. All went well. As I was coming off the podium a friend said "Wow you were awsome" And all of a sudden the shyness that had me throw up many times, just left. Now I am a total ham. Also read up on assertive communication and stop worrying about other people judgement. It is usually wrong anyway.

Answer 3

You are afraid to say something for fear you will be ridiculed or rejected. You have the correct answer in your head, but you are not sure that you can get it out of your mouth properly, so you remain silent, rather than risk being foolish. Right now, that is just who you are, and there is really no cure for that unless you make an effort. It is easy for us to tell you to get over it--to speak your mind, etc., but I know it is not easy for you. You need to start slowly, if you want to grow out of this. You need to open up to at least one person outside your immediate family. Meanwhile, keep a journal. Write your thoughts in detail, then read them aloud, over and over again. Get used to hearing the sound of your voice expressing your thoughts in a coherent and organized fashion. You will find that you are not stupid and that you CAN articulate your thoughts with practice. Head up, dear!

Answer 4

Rise up Sally
wipe away your tears and become
a Queen
Be confident ok
You are not beneath anyone,
We all say stupid things through out the day
Say how you feel
And like if you are truly off the wall
someone will say something
but always have a good reply
and never stand there like you have been shot

Answer 5

shyness is generally caused by one or more of the following:

1. Low Self Esteem, meaning you are worried about what other will think of you for what you say or you question the validity of what you say.

2. Approval Issues, you don't want to offend someone or have them not approve of what you say.

3. Socialization Issues, many children who were loners or went around many children while growing up tend to be shy.

4. Abuse Issues, some children when abused when younger (any type of abuse applies here) are shy, they don't act our or say what they are thinking for fear of continued abuse, this is a subconscious feeling.

Answer 6

When I was a kid I was shy. Hated attention, hated being looked at, hated being touched, hated being around other people, etc. But then, lo and behold, Yahoo Answers came along, and now, I'm the life of the party!

Answer 7

It sounds like you are self-conscious because you don't have confidence in yourself.

First things first, stop telling yourself that you say stupid things. You are not stupid. You are an interesting person, and many people would love to know what you have to say. Stop giving the power over to other people -- take it back -- and be proud of yourself.

Answer 8

the best thing to do is just say it anyway, go out on a limb, i know what its like I'm shy too, but its best just to put yourself out there anyway and try not to worry about what people think of you

Answer 9

heres the solution, make yourself talk to as many people as possible. make it a goal everyday to have real conversations with people you dont know. i started this at the begging of this year, it was my new years resolution and has worked wonders. try it, youll see, and it gets easier and more comfortable every day

Answer 10

i get in trouble cause im not shy enough...... dont woory feeling stupid....one of the greatest things ive learned waz to be able to laugh at my self....seriusly consider it....