I am not happy since my father was dead(6 years ago), What should I do?

Answer 1

My dads been dead longer and i still haven't gotten totally over it...If you loved your dad and he was a good guy, you will never forget the things you did together, how he was there for you. Its OK to miss them, i don't dwell on it tho...Strange thing, my dad was killed while i was at boot camp, so i didn't get to see him, dead or alive before the accident and i swear i was the only person in the family who thought like this...It was like my dad disappeared, he was some secret mission and he was going to come home...It sounds strange but every person in my family had this same delusion...It how we cope with the loss. Dont worry some day it will get easier, believe me, but dont forget him. You honor him by going on with your life and being a good person. Make your dad proud.

Answer 2

Mine died about 15-16 years ago and I still missing him, but when got sad because he's not here something that makes me happy is that I was there in the moment he needed me more, perhaps all the good moments we have together, and where ever he is I know I'll see him again. If you loose hope you loose everything. Besides the last I know your father wouldn't be happy either if he sees you sad, if you think about him ,remembering the good times you had with him, you'll be honoring him and would make him happy and also it will pop out an smile from you.

Answer 3

I know that depression all too well. I lost my mom almost 10 years ago. The pain of losing a loved one never goes away. As far as not being happy since your father's death is just your way of greiving. Try to remember the good times with your father and know that he would want you to be happy. Even though you miss him, life does go on. You can't stay in the depression rut forever. You will miss out on all the wonderful things that life does have to offer. Keeping a journal to right down your feelings when you are not happy. It will help you make sense of things as well. Once you write it down, forget about it and slowly the depression will lift. It worked for me. Good luck.

Answer 4

My mom died 2 years ago, the day after x-mas, so I know what its like. There's not a day that goes by that I don't think of her. But ma life goes on, I agree with the other answers, you really should seek some counseling. I mean its been six years and you feel like it just happened probably yesterday. I totally understand your grief, but ask yourself this, would your dad want you to grief over his death or would he want to see you happy and move on with your life? I know my mom would, so I carry the good times we had and the life lessons she taught me, so I can pass it on to my children someday. You need to have that same outlook, would you want your kids to grieve over you after your death, no ofcourse not, and besides, we all know this life is just temporary, some people are scared of death, while others embrace it. Depending on how your father lived his life, and how you live yours, perhaps you will meet again, keep that hope alive. Remember where ever you go he'll always be with you and a part of those that past become a part of us. God bless.

Answer 5

My father died when I was young too, now i'm 44, I still think about it every day, but you need to focus on things that make you happy. Its a hard thing losing a loved one, i've been there, my father committed suicide and at 12 years old, I found him... you have to put it out of your mind because if you don't trust me, it will devour you totally. Its better to talk about it with a neutral person (non family/friend) just to vent your feelings, you'll see that after you get those hard feelings out, you'll begine to feel better. Try a hobby, if your a guy, try building model cars, or a girl, try needlepointing, anything to take your mind off what bothering you, but definitly talk to someone, i'm still paying the price 32 years later...

Answer 6

I know what you are going through, I lost my father 5 years ago. I was 36 at the time. It is not easy to lose a loved one, I myself find it hard to watch certain movies without feeling the loss again. There is no magic cure for your broken heart sad to say. You can only go through life remembering the times you had together and know he misses you as much as you miss him. He will wait for you with others for the day you will meet again. It will not be soon, but he will be there, this I am sure. Make him proud.

Answer 7

You are grieving and depressed, of course. That's normal after losing your father. You need to talk to other people who have lost their parents. Talking through your feelings will make you feel better, and also you'll see that other people can move on and so can you.You need to be the best person you can be (and the happiest person you can be) in order to honor the memory of your father. Your father would want you to make a life for yourself and become a good, upstanding citizen. Find a grief support group, a grief counselor, or a clergy person to help you. Please do it now. God Bless you.

Answer 8

You need to seek counseling. After 6 years you should be able to remember your father with fond memories and smile, rather than be sad. You will never get over your father not being here, but there are ways to cope with it better. Counseling can help you to uncover what feelings are causing you so much pain and get you on the road to happier times in the future. I lost my mother recently and my father has cancer and not long left with me. I know what you are going through. I promise it will get better for you.

Answer 9

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How's that for a top answer? Otherwise, if you don't feel right doing THAT, I agree with the other people. Get into some grief counseling and possibly join a church. Make sure you're surrounded by friends who can help you through.

Answer 10

it's always tough when you lose a loved one...it takes some time to start to heal and get used to the fact that they are not around and will not be coming back...it is very healthy to have a grieving period but i don't think you should let it control your life...it has been six years and you can;t be happy and that seems wrong...maybe you don't want to be happy because you think you will disrepcting your loved one that passed...and that you don't deserve to be happy...but you know what? it's ok to be happy..if you think about it...i'm sure your loved one would be upset to see you so unhappy...as long as you always hold them in your heart and keep them in that special place you will be ok...you have to accept that life goes on without people sometimes...you might also consider counseling...because you don't want to live in the past..it's sad that people die..but please dont let it hold you down...just hold on to them forever and you'll be ok....but to do that...you have to let go of a little grief and not feel guilty and accept that you can and should be happy...