If you're 33 and still live with Mom, is that bad?

Question

This is my situation: I work two jobs, but it's still not enough for me to live on my own. I know what you're thinking: get a job that pays better. But I love my jobs (sports journalism), it's just that it doesn't pay too much. But it bothers me that I still live at home with my mom. But there's no way I can survive on my own financially, even with two jobs. So am I a loser for living with my mom?

Answer 1

Oh give me a break. If you work two jobs, go find a friend as roommate and move out NOW! For crying out loud, it's OK to live at home at 33 but the way you put it you cry poverty.

You are a bit of a loser as you need to make that leapt. Loads of students can live on their own with probably much less income than you.

Here's a key--bag the vehicle and live in an urban environment. There are loads of places people want to share witha roommate. It'll help you grow up and maybe (shock! horror!) meet a nice babe.

Answer 2

yes... That makes you a big time loser...

Do freelance writing for fun and then get a job that pays well to live off of... You should be setting yourself up to be able to take care of your mother in the near future, not hoping to coat-tail it with her into a retirement home...

j/k find out what matters more to you being financially stable or loving the job that you do, at some point you are going to have to suck it up and be a man... take on the responsibility of taking care of yourself... Ask yourself this ...does your mom still do any of the following: (make you dinner, clean your room, pay for the groceries, do your laundry) if the answer was yes to any of those questions (and more than occasionally) then you are really taking advantage of your monthers generosity... do you really think it was in her game plan to have you hanging around the house into your mid thirties? There are ways to do what you want with your lie without sacraficing your dignity and financial solvency... You just have to find those paths...and yes sometimes the first couple steps on that path sucks... but ultimately you wont bet there without walking in th right direction

Answer 3

Some people would probably say so, but I think that you are doing the best you can. A lot of people settle for jobs that they don't love and people really should do what they love as a career.
But if you feel like you are a loser or that many people view you as one, you could start looking for a small apartment with decent rent or pay a monthly rent to your mom.

Answer 4

I live with my parents and I am 36 yrs. old.....although I have a 15 yr.old boy who I'm trying to support and I don't always get help from his father...I do pay my parents rent though....I would love to move out but I just can't afford it right now....too many medical bills....I'm down on myself too sometimes about my situation but all in all I know that I am a good person and I'm trying my best so what else can I do about it?? I understand your situation and at least you are working hard by holding 2 different jobs.....Chin Up!! Hopefully you will get out of your situation when the time is right!!

Answer 5

I wouldn't consider you a looser, because first of all you're a child of God, and that alone makes you somebody worthwhile, but as far as what you're getting at, I'd say no to that also. It doesn't sound like you're lazy and mooching. I think you need to decide how important being independent is to you. That can be accomplished with a little compromise maybe. Have you considered keeping one job you like best and finding something else that you may not like as much (but don't hate), but pays better. Another consideration is quitting one, and going to school to help you improve your skills enough to do something in the same line of work, but at a higher paying level.

Answer 6

If you don't date and have no plans to marry or have kids, then it doesn't matter. But at 33 it's pretty hard for a woman to imagine that you can survive on your own, or be a partner in a relationship, if you still live with your mother.
If it bothers you, change it. I bet your mom will be pleased to see you grow up.

Answer 7

not while you're pleased with it..and while you're certainly saving money not basically blowing all of it I propose in case you mom nevertheless cuts your steak at dinner table into little products so which you do not choke then yeah you stayed too long i desire you help out like casting off trash, mowing and helping whilst mandatory and not using them as slaves. it would desire to be stable while you're saving or attempting to realize a purpose. and in the event that they don't ideas you being there. stable success

Answer 8

I don't necessarily think you're a loser if you live at home IF (and notice it's capitalized) this is a temporary stepping stone on your way to making it out on your own. Like if you're trying to save money to move out on your own because you're trying to get somewhere in your career, then I think it's okay.
However, if you have no plans of ever moving out, then maybe you should sit down and think about where you're trying to go in life. What direction do you want your career to go in? Your personal life?

Answer 9

no ur not a loser because ur tryin to push foward and rite now ur mom is like the only person thatu can call on til u get back on ur feet and thats a bad thing as long as u dont plan on stayin there ur whole life and you continue to help her with some of the bills no ur most def not a loser. but good luck and i wish u the best

Answer 10

You are not a loser. Times are hard right now. As long as you are contributing to the household in some way, you aren't mooching.

Keep doing what you are doing and one day, you will be able to pay your bills as a sports journalist.