2006-07-30 14:57:48 · 6 answers · asked by arizona 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
v/c i feel your pain as i am a dad of children in a previouse marriage and at times i feel myself showing favortism to the ones that came first and dont live with us full time. speaking formyself not your husband but i could cry for my kids becuase i dont see them that much and i want to do as muchas i can when i do see them. its a burben i knew i was going to enter when i said " i do " a second time. my wife though has always pushed for equality between the children and the way i act to them and at times i screw it up but im a sensible man and know she is right and i rely on her sense i know my own judgement is skewed. i would suggest you talk to your hubby and if he understands what your saying then maybe you can be his level headed half .... when he is screwing up , you gently redirect him to starighten things out. it would also help before hetalks to any of the kids about doing anything that you and he have a talk first alone not infront of the kids to make sure he is fair. he has to understand and be fair and you have to understand his feeling of lose of his kids and his feeling as if his kids feel like they always had their dad to them self and now his kids see another person robbing them of attention. your husband is in pain,love and support him and gently redirect him with out insulting his fathering capabilties. its very hard for you and him but even more on the kids and they ALL need you two tohave along happy marrige... talk talk talk and when your done talking talk somemore after all that talking hit the sack and make out like hooneymooners lol good luck
2006-07-30 15:16:12 · answer #1 · answered by joe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While I doubt that this is the exact reason why, it may be because he doesn't spend a great deal of time with his other kids and therefore he's trying to make up for not being there with them, and your son gets overlooked because he's always there to see him. Talk to your man about it, ask him how he feels about it. There is always the possibility that he feels the same way and just isn't sure what to do to change it. If that's not the case, let him know how you feel and why, and see if maybe that will make him realize anything. I know that for my dad, I was his only son, but it took his last girlfriend telling him to spend time with me for him to even begin paying any attention (I live with my mom, just so you're aware). It may just need to be brought to his attention. I do hope that helps you out some. Best wishes to you :)
2006-07-30 22:15:07 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.... just talk to him, see whats going on. if its you think that he might like them better ( which he shouldn't) then u may hav to end it wit him. And if my advice doesn't work, then dont get mad at me, cuz i'm not an expert at this.
2006-07-30 22:05:26 · answer #3 · answered by cece 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you ned to ask him why are you a better dad to your ex's kids? And then kill him
2006-07-30 22:01:46 · answer #4 · answered by [S.S. NiKA]L0V3S H3R S0M3 TiP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beat the living snot out of the loser!
2006-07-30 22:00:41 · answer #5 · answered by Mommymonster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how u feel
2006-07-30 22:20:42 · answer #6 · answered by heather f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋