Calling the wife.....?

Question

I am in the navy. At this time my wife and I live apart. Her in Michigan and I in Virginia. We have been serperated for about 6 months and was close to a divorce when she came to me wanting to work things out. This was about a month ago. Things have been going well. Thursday I was chatting with her and she said she felt I needed to slow down a little and I said that was fine, whatever she needed. That was that.
Friday, I called her to talk to the girls (two daughters) and she told me she was trying to spend some time with her mom (mothe in law) and not to call the rest of the night. I was cool with that too. Then Saturday morning I called her and no answer. Called again in an hour...no answer. Waited another hour, called...no answer. Then I got a txt msg..."STOP CALLING". So what do I do, I call here about 20 more times...no answer. Today, I call again...no answer....txt msg..."i told you i would talk to you Monday", called again...txt msg..."F...ing stop". Was I wrong?

Emailed me said I was compulsive...would any man do this or am I a freak?

Answer 1

Definantly keep the txtmsgs and the emails. Stop calling her if that is what she wants. If she asks you later why you didn't call then you can show her the proof that she told you not too. Or maybe you could email her. Tell her how you feel. Show emotion. Let her know that you are emailing her to respect her wishes but that you still wanted to let her know that you are thinking about her and that you love her...and all of that stuff. Good luck!

Answer 2

There's a reason she didn't want to answer the phone, and I doubt it had to do with her mother. Is she being faithful? Sounds like she doesn't know if she really wants to work things out, but wants you on the back burner in case she decides she does. Had she answered the phone, you wouldn't have had to keep calling back......looks like she's hiding something to me.

By the way, thank you for serving our country.....God Bless You.

Answer 3

I hate these god damn games that these women play. Don't call her at all and when she calls you again. Tell your busy and that you will call her back but don't call her back.

These are the same god damn games that my separated wife is playing with me. Don't play them. Move on. Life is complicated enough and so is holding a marriage together to play these games with work, stress, bills, and everything else you encounter in a day.

Answer 4

she did want to work things out with you, but then HE CALLED AGAIN. They spent the night together when you called her.

WAKE UP! She is keeping you on the back burner in case HE doesn't work out.

Find someone deserving of you.

Answer 5

Well......she did ask you to stop calling.
Still there seems to be mixed messagaes she is sending you.
I would be cautious concerning getting back together. If it works out good, if she continues to jerk you around, think twice before going onward and forward.

Answer 6

I think what you ddi was right. i'd keep calling to. What is she hiding? Another man? She doesn't want to talk to her own husband? Needs space? What is that. You aren't dating, this is marriage. She sounds childish. Good luck. This doesn't look good..

Answer 7

To call excessively is very irritating. Let her have this requested space. Once you stop calling or become unavailable to HER, I bet she changes. Good luck.

Answer 8

it sound like to me that she has somebody else and don't want u no more so i would just stop calling her , and move on with my life ,

Answer 9

most men probably WOULD do this...
she might be seeing someone else, or just wants you to leave her alone...
on your leave, see her, and see how that goes... the relationship doesn't seem so good right now

Answer 10

i would have done the same thing man . the not knowing parts a killer.