Annoying co-workers?

Question

What do u do when you work with somebody that drives u crazy and irritates you? I read that "It's not them who irritates you, its you that lets him/her irritate you?" but still can't cope (and other co-workers can't either) with that I'm better than you, I'm the boss best friend and I'm so perfect I can't believe myself kind of attitude? Do you have the same problem? What do you do to cope?

Answer 1

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Although I am surprised by this question, I will say this sort of thing has led to people losing their jobs. Since you are a friend of the boss, you need to try to find something good in the bothersome person. Who knows, you may just have another friend.

Answer 2

Remember, everyone has a reason for the way that they are. You might not agree with their reasons but then again they might not agree with yours. You can't deny someone's right to be the way they want unless you are willing to give up the same right. We are all just trying to do the best we feel we can. Does this make people any less annoying...no. But it may put things in perspective when you think that you may irritate people just as bad as they irritate you. The only option you have is to try to be a better person.

Answer 3

We have the same problem in my office....but, do keep in mind what "Charity" says. This person is AND I QUOTE "Buds with the Boss" and it is sickening!.....We just sit back and watch this childish behavior and it is rather embarrassing sometimes. The boss, evidently is too young or inexperienced to realize that this behavior is totally out of line for a working environment. I've made myself crazy over it wondering what I should do to end it....but, I think in the long run, I would be the one that would suffer. So, like Charity says, "go to work and do your job!" You can contact HR or EEO and maybe get results, but I really think you'll regret it! I'm sure that's not what you want to hear, but these days, it's the good guy that always pays the price.

Don't feel sorry for the individual.....he/she knows exactly what they are doing.....it's called manipulation. This individual is lacking something, so if he/she can get or draw "Attention" to themselves in any way shape or form they'll do it! Personally, I think he/she needs to wake up and straighten up and start acting like an adult instead of a child.

Don't get me wrong, I like to have a good time myself, but....there is a time and a place and the workplace is not the "time nor the place." I look at it this way......I can go to sleep at night knowing that I earned my days pay and I did it respectfully not making a spectacle of myself.....can he or she? I seriously doubt it!

Answer 4

OMG! You work where I work, don't you? I learned to accept that this is who the person is and he/she is not going to change. I also try to remember this: Everyone is doing the very best that he/she can do in life with what they have. The annoying jerk in the office is that way because, well, he/she just is. That is the best this person can do with what he/ she has to work with.(a very strong ego = weak countenance) If you think on that, you will eventually feel sorry for your coworker, who has to try so hard, who has to use the type of behavior that cries, "Look at me! Look at me! I am so great! I am a better person than you!" We all know that is not the case; your coworker is not half the person he/she pretends to be, but he/she does not realize it. Something is wrong in your co-worker's skewed, egoistic version of the world. Stop letting this person irritate you and begin to feel sorry for him/her. It makes the day go by much easier and you won't feel stressed about it on your time off. I hope things work out for you!

Answer 5

I have the misfortune to have ageing colleagues who are holding out for their pensions. They cannot work a P.C. therefore take ages completing any task. Boss juniors about - i.e. juniors who know much more than the old sods. One of my "superiors" sighs all day long - I would see the point but she doesn't do anything and goes on about the old days and how much she doesnt understand new technology. An other tries to bluff her way through the day. We work in a library where surely the internet is the way forward. Argh!!!! I could scream, if it were not for the fact that people like yourself feel the same. One of my colleagues lunches with the bosses and regales us with how much she is appreciated. Do the bosses see through all this crap - bet your bottom dollar they do.

Work hard, easy to do with all those ***......... say nothing and be above it all. This way DIGNITY for yourself.

You are not along.

Answer 6

I have this same problem at work. My coworker has to constantly give us a synopsis of what she is doing (ex. I have to go pee pee or I have this to do our that to do. It is very annoying and I think I do let it irritate me. Most of the time I just walk out of the office or ignore her when she is in the office.

Answer 7

I would try to talk to them first. See if they realize what they are doing that annoys you. If that doesn't work try avoidance. If that can not be done I just get them back until they want a truce. Eventually you can work in peace.

Answer 8

people who make a point of telling others how great they are and how important they are usually lack real self esteem.

if everyone in the workplace made a point of complimenting this person on something that was real and they did this consistently every day the person would soon not need to tell you all how great they are they would see for themselves how great they are....

in that way you win... and they win...

Answer 9

Luckily, al them co workers have sodded off. The only one left that is remotely like that, we just ignore and slag him off behind his back. Childish but does make us feel better!

Answer 10

Remind yourself that you are getting paid for being there. File a complaint with HR or other authorities. Remember that you were looking for a job when you found this one.