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2006-07-30 14:27:42 · 30 answers · asked by Kimberly 6 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Honesty is the best policy. To lie to someone is to deny them reality. That hurts them not only that but it hurts you. Hurts them because a real friend shouldn't lie to them. Hurts you because you create a presedence. " Well if I they didn't catch me last time..."
Now the biggest problem with being Honest and brutally honest is the absence of Tact. This is the art of manuevering the situation into a favoruable out come. One in which you aren't the bad guy.
You should sit them down remind them that you love them and care about them. With out a derogatory or acusatory deminor express to them the situation. Then in conculsion physically express your sincerity of love and honesty.
2006-07-30 14:37:30 · answer #1 · answered by x0zx 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No. Sometimes a good lie is necessary. Consider why.
Lying is a form of manipulation. It stems from our desire to exert control over our surroundings. We lie when it is to our advantage to do so - to cover things up, to protect our reputation, to get something we want, to hurt people, to make us look better, etc.
Lying is learned behavior. Even while our parents may teach us that lying is wrong, we all practice it in some form. Most of the time we lie to ourselves and don't realize we are doing it. Or we lie to our loved ones because we know the truth would hurt them.
Lying is also a communications strategy. Most believe a poor one, but one that has been around since we first started speaking to one another, and one that doesn't figure to go away any time soon. There's too much value in being able to shape the perceptions of others with a few words, albiet false ones. There is power in a good mistruth, and the control afforded by a good lie is too tempting for even the most well-intended individuals.
At the end of the day, sometimes a small lie is better than the truth if it protects you or someone you love.
2006-07-30 21:30:18 · answer #2 · answered by www.ayntk.blogspot.com 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In general, yes. But it's important to buffer honesty with tactfulness, good timing, and sensitivity, like when you have to be honest with someone but it's probably going to hurt their feelings. In the long run, people will always respect you more for being honest, even when you tell them things they don't want to hear. I mean, think about it: Who would you trust more? Someone who is consistently honest and dependable, so that you never have to worry what they REALLY think or where they stand on an issue? Or someone who tells people what they want to hear so that they can avoid conflict and discomfort? A "white lie" is still a lie and can be just as deadly. The only time that lying is ever a good idea is if it's absolutley necessary to keep the ones you love from being harmed.
2006-08-05 13:33:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is in general. Sometimes it land you in trouble. I will tell you one story. One gentleman was travel ling in a train pulls up chain (meant for emergencies only) in the night and when authorities on the train started investigating he told them that his son has completed 12 years and according to law of land he should be charged full fare (Otherwise children below 12 years are charged half of the full fare). So he was fined for unlawfully pulling the chain.
That is what I meant honesty does not pay always.
2006-08-07 04:41:35 · answer #4 · answered by rajiv s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ethically speaking, yes "honesty is the best policy." You can be honest and be tactful at the same time. It is hard to trust and respect a dishonest person, in business or personal relationships.
2006-08-07 18:40:32 · answer #5 · answered by Cricket 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty may be the best policy, but it's important to remember that apparently, by elimination, dishonesty is the second-best policy.
George Carlin
2006-07-30 22:40:56 · answer #6 · answered by m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In some cases yes.... But I have seen other times were it has not been. Just the other day on the news a bum found an envelope with over $25,000.00 in Bonds in it. He turned it into the police or to the owner.... and you know what he got. The owner gave him less than $100.00. What an asshole! that bum should have gotten at least 1,000.00! He saved that guy over $20,000.00!
2006-07-30 21:33:13 · answer #7 · answered by diciccos351 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At supper one night, when my eldest daughter was about 12, she asked, "Dad, when you were younger, did you ever do drugs?" FORTUNATELY my honest answer was "Yes, but not very much or very many times." A friend crucified me for telling the truth, thinking that would promote her doing drugs herself. My answer was, there will be a day when I will ask HER a tough question, and no matter what it is, I will want the truth. I feel the lesson was worth the discomfort!
2006-08-07 15:10:15 · answer #8 · answered by Mike R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is, but it would be determined by whom you are talking too, most people want you to butter them up & don't really want to know the truth, if you're married there are some things you may never want to tell your mate, & that is the truth, no matter if they tell you it won't make a difference, believe me it does, there are some things that you should just keep to yourself, that is the safe way. Be cautious if your best friend ask for opinion, lie.
2006-08-06 16:51:53 · answer #9 · answered by beautie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty, tempered with compassion is usually the best policy. Never say always.
2006-07-30 21:32:10 · answer #10 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋