If your wife didn't want children? I'm 28 and have been married for nearly a year. My husband is 36. We both decided before we got married that whether we had children or not, it would be fine. He loves kids and is great with them, and his mom is in ICU dying right now of colon and liver cancer. I have a feeling he will come to me in a few months and ask if we can start a family. I am not ready for kids and still do not want them. Is this a bad thing? I know he would accept my answer of no, but should I want kids by now or does this come with time after a few years of marriage?
2006-07-30 13:30:23 · 6 answers · asked by Rachel 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your heart will tell you when the time is right.
2006-07-30 13:37:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my daughter at 33 yrs. old. I was like you not sure about kids. I decided to wait 5 yrs. and enjoy marriage before starting a family. After the five yrs., I was shocked that I wanted a baby. Yes, children are lots of work and I don't think everyone should have them. It is your decision but honestly, if you do decide down the road to do it. Be committed to being a great parent. It is irriversible and never the child's fault. Good luck... I think it takes time and the best parents do not rush into parenthood lightly. Good luck.
2006-07-30 21:18:22 · answer #2 · answered by noitall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's getting old. And honestly your clock is tickinig too. He may not want to be in his forties to be the parent of a newborn. And from past experience you may not want to be in your thirties caring for a newborn.
I'm not saying what to do; that's a decission only you and he can make, jusrt thought i'd point out one major factor........
Goodluck & Godspeed................
2006-07-30 20:42:47 · answer #3 · answered by Mike B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course not, after all the woman must carry the baby for 9 months then nurse and care for it, so if shes not up to it, then thats that, adoption is a viable alternative
2006-07-31 08:55:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What we think doesn't matter one bit. It's okay to want them, and it's okay to not want them (and it's okay to change your mind). Live happily and follow your own course.
2006-07-30 20:35:35 · answer #5 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you talked about it before hand, he will not expect kids now
2006-07-30 20:32:24 · answer #6 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋