How can I become more fun, happy, bubbly and fun to be around? I wan't people do enjoy my company not get bored with it. Most of my friends think I am kind of distant and quiet, I think so too. There must be some way I can change? I am sick of being so down on myself and etc. And please don't just tell me that I can't just change like that.
2006-07-30 13:27:52 · 17 answers · asked by BlinkOnce 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Man the best way not to be distant is to understand that everybody has their share of insecurities. I am a very outgoing person but, I do have friends who are not. Some people just mistake those who are quiet for distant. The more you get to know people the more you will come out of your shell. Your friends must see something that makes you worthy of friendship and if they don't then their not true friends. It’s hard for people to just tell someone to be open because sometimes that to can have it’s share of problems. Remember this: only do what you feel comfortable doing. If you feel like opening up and talking to someone than do it, if you don’t….well then don’t. If you do that you will find people who see the real you and learn to appreciate it. Tell your friends it just takes you awhile to come around. I have a friend who is very quite and reserved when there is a group of us together but, when it’s just me and her she is so crazy and anything but reserves and quite!! Just open up yourself to those you feel completely comfortable around.
2006-07-30 13:38:33 · answer #1 · answered by Erik R 1 · 2⤊ 3⤋
The fact that you can acknowledge that you have to change is a start.
Why not try and find new activities or clubs that you can join. You will meet new ppl there, learn news things that you can share with your friends, and gain confidence so that you won't always feel so down on yourself.
I have a friend that does lacrosse, rugby, life guarding, acting, singing.. He does it all.
I love hanging around him because he always has some interesting story to tell from his various activities.
Good luck
2006-07-30 13:47:46 · answer #2 · answered by Gabriella P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be more spontaneous. If you come across a decision, pick the stupider choice. Yell a lot, and laugh even if somehting isn't that funny. Run, and jump, and scream, and party. Get involved in the conversations, and try to always be excited about what ur doing. Be a party person, and suggest movies to watch and places to go! No one likes a bore.
2006-07-30 13:32:41 · answer #3 · answered by NYChick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well talk more to everybody, be open, share ur feelings and everything. And be a little funny, you dont have to do whatever they say to be a funny person. Just be a little opened than u were before. Try doing funny things, but not that funny, just a little coz if u are like ''hahahaha yeah hahahaha hahahaha!!!'' well theyre gonna think ur a freak and they wouldnt like to hang around with you. Be more like urself, but put a little funny feeling on it.
2006-07-30 13:36:02 · answer #4 · answered by Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ Lisamaria. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats exactly how i feel when relationships between guys and me dont even last pass a week. except im TOO fun and happy and bubbly and stuff and immature so they kinda dont like that. if being yourself means that you think you're distant, then be that. people who dont respect that? screw them. they dont know what its like to really be themselves. dont try to change yourself for others
2006-07-30 13:44:34 · answer #5 · answered by Janeyy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be your self. I'm sure you are better then they are. You may need new friends. Try not to be shy and relax. The more you get use to talking the easer it will be. If you lison to them you will always be to afraid to talk. This may be exackly what they want and not telling you. You must not be to bad they want to be your friend don't they. Stop worrying.
2006-07-30 13:34:10 · answer #6 · answered by ldp999000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, when you call yourself the Angel of Death it's a safe bet your not a happy go lucky kinda chick. Start with appearance. And get laid, that'll cheer you up. Hey, I like everything weird, I think its my adhd, but hey this is about you so,....go on. get out and get some. make ya all better.
2006-07-30 13:33:42 · answer #7 · answered by deleted 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm shy too. Just be ur self and it'll be ok. Think of some1 u like and pretend that' s the person u talking too, it'll work. Coming out side the 'shy' world will brighten ur eyes!
2006-07-30 13:32:23 · answer #8 · answered by v.ballerr <3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just start doing things on your own... like biking, roller blading, hiking, clubbing, anything! The less Bored You are with Yourself, the less boring you will be to others.
2006-07-30 13:31:45 · answer #9 · answered by M L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you may. Be open, dare things others wouldn't, express yourself however you will, ask others of there lives or interests. I'm not to sure just be comfortable with yourself be open and think of things that thrill you and talk about it. I can't fully explain i guess..
2006-07-30 13:33:27 · answer #10 · answered by Noodles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋