i need to reask and rephrase my question. i work @ least 75 hrs. a week should i be required to have 2 yearold

Question

my girlfriend and mother of my kids lives with me and is a stay at home mom. should i have to be responsible 100% for my beautiful 2 year old little girl every tues. and thurs. nite plus every other weekend just like custody agreement so my girlfriend can have a break

i love my kids sometimes i work 100hrs a week. i worked 10 hrs. on fathers day. it is not the spending time that i am concerned about it is the requirement of

Answer 1

to be honest, yes, you had sex there for responsible for your kid first off, yes you make the money and because no one else works you should be thanked for that, and not having her work is very nice and probably saves you money on a baby sitter, but if think of it mathamatically if you work 7days a week -8hrs to sleep each day you thats 112 hours left to fill, you leave to go to work and have breaks but she stays home all day she works 1/2 the time when your there, all the time when your gone, she is in full company of your child all day long you get breaks, and a choice on how hard your going to have to deal with your customers, she has to make sure the kid is safe all day, fed, bathed, entertained, etc. so she works almost more than you do and doesn't get paid,that is if you work 7 days a week, long hours but she has to be attentive longer and if you work 5 days, and don't take care of your child, you only have 96 hrs to fill, but she is still taking care of the child, there for working longer than you, plus you get more adult socializing. so in a way yes you work alot but taking care of a kid is work too, but different than a normal job, and requires different things of a person, so if you help each other out then in the long run maybe she will decide to take the kid out so you can sleep all day, just work together

Answer 2

Your not making it really clear here as to what is going on. Are you court ordered to do this or what? But either way, if you care about that baby at all, I would think that you would want to be around her every chance that you had.

Just because you work all those hours don't mean a thing.

The mother of that baby takes care of her 24/7 she has no "hours" that she can work like a regular job. If that baby gets sick during the night, she has to take care of it. Her job is more than 75 hours a week.

Answer 3

ok, now that u've reasked and u stated it a different way .. if she has something that she wants to do like a hobby , i dont know softball for example.. thats on tue and thru night and may take up some time on the weekends.. but only lasts for a few months, then yes she does need outlets.. and u should be supportive of her needing her time.. now if shes wanting this time to go out partying or out with the girls.. then no she shouldnt expect u to use all of your down time from work to babysitt your daughter and thats what u would become at that moment her babysitter and not her father, if she wants to once in awhile thats fine, because she does need her down time, but not all the time, u should be spending as much time as a family as possible when your not working, but do understand that she does need her time, and if its to do a hobby that she really wants to do and is only for a few months, then yes, let her, remember this.. HAPPY WIFE.. HAPPY LIFE.. and although ur not married, ur living as if u are, so u mine as well look at her as your wife..

Answer 4

randy, my answer is still the same. i used to work those hours aswell but at some point what will daddy's little angel remember about her daddy, or will she even remember him being in her life at all when she was young. you have to find a balance and your employer had to understand that being a daddy is first and your job is extemely important up to the point that it hurts your family... i hope you chose to make memories instead of money one only last a short time and the other lasts a lifetime and it last a lifetime for you and your lil girl. im guessing your woman would find it more attractive that your a real daddy more then she finds it attractive your a great employee good luck again

randy i hope you dont reask the question again hoping to get a response that you like... your lil girl loves you more then your boss.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

i want 2 say this as gently as possible, she works at least 75 hours a week, too. i think you guys have a core problem because you are trying to pan off childcare for them. compromise with your gf. and watch your daughter ONE night a week, PLUS hire a sitter and go out WITH your gf one night a week. She is asking for too much, but you are definitely not giving enough. i appreciate that you work, i wonder if you do not feel appreciated, though. that is definitely important for her to help you feel appreciated. but it sounds like you're using each other. she doesnt' care that you work so hard, and you don't care that she works so hard, either. staying home with kids isn't hard physical work, but it can make a person crazy after a while. give her a break and give yourselves both some bonding time together so that you can start appreciating each other again. good luck :)

Answer 7

I know what I'm about to say sounds easier than it really is but I'm not gonna sit here & badger you on how ungrateful you are. No one here is in your shoes nor hers.

My sugestion is that you find another job that doesn't require working so many hours to make ends meet so that you can have more time for your family as a WHOLE. Best Wishes!

Answer 8

I try and try to get pregnant and your the only one that can be blessed to have children. I dont know whats wrong with me but you should hold that little girl tight. Their are alot of women out there that wish they could have children and never get pregnant.
Dont complain about your 2 year old shes probably the best gift you have ever been given. She will hold you when your down, and think the best of you when no one gives a care. Be good to her and supportive and one day she can take care of you.

Answer 9

give this poor kid up for adoption. i'm a single mom of three, and when they were younger, i worked 3 jobs at a time. i never once treated my girls like chattel...........parenting takes maturity and common sense.....there are no breaks.
YOU WORK 100 HOURS PER WEEK???? when i was working all my jobs, i sure wouldn't have time to be on here!!! are you really in debt that bad? tell your girlfriend to get a job, then you can rotate child "duties". this is so unbelievable......

Answer 10

hey...she's your daughter too...if you didn't want to spend time with her you shouldn't have had kids...you should consider it a blessing that you have this time with her because when she gets older she won't think you're cool enough to hang out with. This is the time where you should be building the foundation of a close relationship with her...enjoy it and use it to it's fullest rather than complaining....she will only be two once...and it goes by very quickly.