a couple live above me and they are always arguing about him cheating with another woman.he says he does it because shes boring.lately it sounds like they are fighting and i heard him threaten to hit her if she hit him again.im tempted to call the police.at which point should i step in .its a bit awkward?
2006-07-30 12:48:34 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Step in before she gets hurt,, its the right thing to do.
You're a good neighbour for thinking of this,,
(wish you lived next to me.)
2006-07-30 12:51:04 · answer #1 · answered by India 55 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It is awkward but domestic violence - whether against a man or woman - is just that. if its the woman hitting the man, then big respect to him for holding back and not turning round and hitting her back - not all guys would do that. I lived in a flat where I had the same problem with neighbours upstairs. I called the police a number of times and he got a bit nasty with me so I spoke to another neighbour who had also heard the noise and next time there was a fight by some fortune I was out and he called the police. They must have heard me arrive home while they were speaking to the police - I'd virtually followed them up the stairs - so they knew this time it wasn't me. It gave her the final bit of strength to kick the guy out realising that several neighbours were concerned, a few months later I had drinks with her and she thanked me for sticking up for her and apologised for putting me through it having to listen to the abuse and feel helpless. The problem is you see that unless one of them tells the police there's a problem there is little the police can actually do - its got to come from the person being attacked. A crazy piece of law I know. Maybe you should speak to a neighbour and ask if they hear it and try to come up with you both calling it in and asking the police to make it clear they've have SEVERAL calls. Good luck and thanks for letting us all know there are some good neighbours out there.
2006-07-30 13:03:31 · answer #2 · answered by janebfc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call 911 trust me something like also happened with me ,
when I heard a couple fighting I got others invloved not the police, as there were living at our house , there stop and never fighted, but had been next door I would have definatly called the police, and I actly told them that a police came to visit asking about , fighting noise as though it were a couple fighting just to scare them and it worked.
Call the police , there wont say nothing to you , as they already are in a weak postion , call cause I know how bad it sounds you cant sleep right, and your worried that any minute someones gonna die so do the right thing call the police and tell also what you heard like the man cheating his wife , so they can lock him up , by the way dont have night mares
2006-07-30 13:00:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can make the call ANONYMOUSLY...
You can also call a domestic abuse hot-line for assistance and guidance.
You can ask her questions when she is alone and see what she says. Inform her of the abuse hot-line and of the "order of protection" if she is being battered.
You can call for a "wellness" check during or after a fight if you are scared. When they know the police is aware, they will not go out of hand, or at least they can do something if it happens repeatedly. The worst you could do, is ignoring it. Do not ignore it. Do what feels right for you, ask other to help if need be. If it sound bad, call 9-1-1 !!!
2006-07-30 14:30:22 · answer #4 · answered by schnikey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on:
1. Is that the first time (and only one)?
2. Do you know them ? Have you ever talk with one or the two (crossing in the street, supermarket, ...)
If answer to 1. is no, it means that they are doing this everyday, then you can try point 2. to have some better vision of what's happening. You may also crosscheck with some other neighbors to see if they share your point of view.
If all of this makes you think one of the 2 risks to injure or kill the other one, then call police.
2006-07-30 12:54:25 · answer #5 · answered by Otto 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Law is an ***,how often you heard that said...
the police are very funny on domestic violence,they dont like to get involved,only when the offence has occured..then and only then has a crime been commited.......they have the problem that so many times they attend a domestic scene only to be told to mind their own business BY THE VICTIM.its very unnerving for you the neighbour,but a very touchy area..POINT OF LAW you said you HEARD..........threats did you SEE anything.(SHRUG MY SHOULDERS) if you hear a fight and its bad,then silence,maybe ring the police,if they have time and are in the area they MAY call on your neighbour maybe..............
2006-07-30 13:07:11 · answer #6 · answered by thomasina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah call the police. And remember, man can be victims of domestic violence as well so he may be on the recieving end too. The fact that it's intruding on your life is a good enough justification for your involvement.
2006-07-30 12:51:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so you think it is acceptable for a woman to hit a man but if the man so much as implies he will retaliate, you think about calling the police, wow, what a nice girl you are, not! men are also victims of domestic violence and this issue should not be ignored, if she hits him again and you are aware of it, why don't you try doing the decent thing and call the police on her!!!!!!!!
2006-07-31 01:19:49 · answer #8 · answered by Foxy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As potentially painful and heartbreaking as this may (probably will) be,
ya gotta step in.
You need to go to the police first because if you talk to her first ... well ...
She will probably deny it ... he may show up your door step wondering how
the hell you can be interfering with their lives, etc.
If you go to the police first, it becomes a matter of public record that a call
has been made and they have more experience in such things than you
do.
This isn't going to be any fun. Good luck!
2006-07-30 13:00:23 · answer #9 · answered by Elana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is assaulting him then she should be arrested.
If the noise of the arguements becomes to loud, or you hear threats of violence or sounds of actual violence then phone the police immediately.
If it is just the noise level then phone the Police on their local number not 999. However if you think there is actual violence taking place or likely to take place then phone 999.
2006-07-30 12:58:00 · answer #10 · answered by John H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police. Too many women are abused when people know about it and do nothing. Wouldnt you feel guilt if someday you saw her carried out in a body bag? I would tell your landlord too maybe he would help put a stop to it.
2006-07-30 12:54:07 · answer #11 · answered by Sad Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋