like what did yall do about it. i mean they trust me it is just they are i guess scared of what could happen to me, but i am like relax, yall have taught me well , now they rest it up to me, they need to show they trust me. I will be a senior in high school, hopefully this year it will be different.. so like i said what did yall do, and dont say talking tried that millions of times in every way.
2006-07-30 12:42:37 · 11 answers · asked by happygolucky456 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
My mother was very overprotective when I was young. I hated it at the time, but value it now. The best advice I can offer is to give your parents no reason not to trust you. You will be on your own in no time and will not have to deal with them anymore. They are trying to keep you safe until you are 18 and they have to let go. The things they are trying to protect you from, you probably don't need to do anyway. I regret doing drugs, having sex, etc. I learned nothing positive from it. There is so much time ahead of you to do things like that...your parents could never forgive themselves if something happened to you on their watch. Good Luck!
2006-07-30 12:52:52 · answer #1 · answered by Danielle P 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I did have overprotective parents. I know this is not the answer you want, but there isn't much you can do about it -besides communicating with them - that isn't going to ultimately blow up in your face. Of course, you can sneak around and do what they are forbidding you to do. However, you will get caught if you do this enough, and will likely end up with less privileges than you have at the moment.
The best thing that you can do is to communicate as clearly as possible what you want "I'd like to stay out 30 minutes later tonight because the movie doesn't get out until 11pm" and why you think it is fair "I'll be with Sara, and you know we both just made the A honor roll at school, and we spent all last weekend raking leaves for shut-ins with the youth group at church. I think we have earned a little trust and I would appreciate your consideration of extending my privileges in this instance" (Don't under any circumstances use what all your friends are allowed to do as justification for what you should be able to do. This NEVER helps, trust me. Also, if they do consent, be home on time and say thank you - show them they made the right decision). And, if they still say "no" don't throw a tantrum as this just reinforces what they already think which is that you are not mature enough to handle more privileges. Tell them that while you do not agree with their decision, you will respect it. You may find that the next time you ask for something, they consider it more seriously.
Good luck. Before you know it you will be married with kids and a mortgage and you will be looking back on this time in your life as the "good old days".
2006-07-30 20:00:22 · answer #2 · answered by davis0375 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I was a Junior in high school last year, I was supposed to be a Senior this year, but I graduated a year early. In 4 months imma b 18 and they don't like my parents. So, now they are overprotective over me, because my boyfriend is 23. But they won't let me do anything with him, less if I sneak out & do something. But im just chillen, relaxin looken for a job for these last 4 months, cuz once when I turn 18 me & my boyfriend are gun move in together. I just try to be cool w/ my parents and everything.
2006-07-30 19:47:19 · answer #3 · answered by Peaches06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
My parents guarded me from anything and everything when I was younger. Don't get me wrong...I don't regret the complete absence of child abuse or neglect. I don't wish that I got kidnapped because they looked away for 5 seconds too long. But I believe that I missed out on some valuable character-building childhood experiences because of the forcefield they put up around me.
Neither my brother nor I could participate in any extracurricular activities in high school without them immediately volunteering as the head chaperones. I missed out on a few things because they wouldn't let me do it alone. I could say "Look...I'd rather do this by myself!". Next thing I knew, bam. They were on the chaperones roster. So I just dropped out of the activity. They asked me why, I told them exactly why, and they got depressed because their teenage son didn't want them pushing their way into his school activities.
They also have a tendency to live in the past when it comes to my likes and dislikes...my mom is much worse about this. When I was in 5th grade I thought Cheetah's were the coolest thing on earth...I wrote reports on them and went to the zoo to see them all the time. Fast forward to the present day and my mid-30's. If we get a Zoonooz magazine with a Cheetah on the cover, my mom will grab the f**king thing, shove it in my face and squeal "Look! A Cheetah!! You love Cheetah's!!" I'm still a child in her eyes and it really pisses me off when she pulls that crap. I have to give a cold monotone reply like "I might have liked them back in elementary school but I couldn't care less about them now". She reacts like I told her I have 6 months to live.
As a result, to this very day I don't let my parents know whenever I do anything creative. I know for a fact they'd smother me with it just like in high school.
2006-07-30 19:55:48 · answer #4 · answered by ardra71 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents are overprotective...well they are less overprotective than they were...i never go outside...and when i do, i have to take my older cousin with me...and i cant go to the mall by myself...i have to go with my "responsible best friend"...and they question me about everything...when they see my phone bill show up, they're gonna be like...who r these ppl cuz my bill shows the names of the people i call and what time...and i dont even have a boyfriend. i just have a few guy friends...
2006-07-30 20:57:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents were protective. I hated it at the time. Now that I have children of my own I know why they were protective. The moment I held my first child in my arms it all made sense. Don't rebel against them, just respect them, they are protective because they LOVE YOU! You will be out of the house and be on your own before you know it. Hang in there.
2006-07-30 20:22:59 · answer #6 · answered by arbonnegirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hear ya! and honestly, i dont think there is anything to do! i did try scaring them.. by just doing what i wanted and giving them a good explanation.. but it was hard 2 watch.. just hold out for another year!
2006-07-30 19:45:56 · answer #7 · answered by lyss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until you are 18 and moved out of their house, you are their responsibilty. You must do what they say.
If you don't like it, get a job, move out and support yourself.
2006-07-30 19:52:03 · answer #8 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me.
ok so i cant sleep over unless they know and talk with my freinds parents..
um...i cant have a bf till im ...well....first they said 18...then 16 then 18 again..and then 21...i think thats a bit too old
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...yeah
2006-07-30 20:47:30 · answer #9 · answered by applebottom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be happy your parents care...some parents don't give a flying ****
2006-07-30 19:53:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋