husband or boyfreind?

Question

married 4 17yrs have had bf for last 3yrs hubby good provider but we have nothin in common married in name only bf is younger luv him with my heart but my mind says security bf tired of waiting for me but being that hes young doesnt quite have the financial stability as hubby but he is a hard worker makes me feel special and many qualities ive never seen b4 in men what should i do? bf 25 im 37 ...am scared of the unknown i guess

im bein called selfish in reality hubby wont let go he knows why im here he has his own selfish reasons for makin me stay as to my kids they r 15 17 21 i started early my kids r aware of the situation and know i am home because i cant afford to support them on my own

Answer 1

Does your husband know about the boyfriend? You have been married for 17 years, cheating for 3 of them, seems
to me you've already left the marriage, so to speak ! So what's the boyfriend have to offer you? You think after
you leave the marriage for good, he's gonna have the stability of your husband, he's quite a bit younger and
may have never had to handle responsibility. I think you
should think long and hard about what you're doing.

Answer 2

LOL YOUR PATHETIC PLAIN AND SIMPLE PATHETIC.. what a horrible role model u are for your children.. great going mom, u stay with a man cause of financial reasons, but have no problem cheating on him.. lol guess what, the 25 year old eventually isnt going to want to be dating a grandma when hes only in his late 20s lol.. and then he'll throw u away like trash.. so im hopeing u do leave your husband , just so the bf can treat u like trash like your treating ur husband like trash.. lol..

Answer 3

You are old enough to figure this one out, afterall its you who makes the final decision and live with it. Remember, the grass is always greener on the other side til you get there. Whats going to happen when you reach mid-age and hes still a young stud? Its not having what you want, but wanting what you got. Is this really worth all you have? Think about it. The answer you seek is inside you if you only look deeper. Good luck

Answer 4

betty , do what ever you want, you are a low life morallt bankrupt person destin to destroy anything anyhow, your not asking a question in here your showing off becuase your going to do what ever you want any how, how do i know this ?? simple, you made a promise in front of GOD and family to love honor, to forsake all others. till death do you part... im guessing i have said it correctly and what the people at your wedding didnt hear though was you saying in your mind was "or untill i get bored or feel like cheating" you are of the lowest morals and the reason why divorce happens so often... your gonna get alot of idiots responding to your question with you have a right to be happy. so does your husband, i wished i knew him, what makes this younger boy any better your gonna eventually get tired of him as well and he should be smart enough to know your promises and marriage vows are worth spit to you... the saddest thing is you probably are going to destroy your childrens life too, seeings how you didnt mention them im assuming they mean that little to you or you know somone like me would point out that your a bi,tch for hurting your family for self gratification..... you need to take some advice find a reason to love your husband pretending like your head over heals for the man, one day youll wake up and realise you do love him. it wouldnt suprise me if he cheats on you that youll be hurt and offended. how dare he..... i hate people who cheat on their spouses, especially when the other is doing right by them. grow up

Answer 5

First of all you are marry and should considered why you got married in the first place. You have look beyond you hope and dream,. I feel you should and since you are in love with bf then asked your husband for a divorce. Don't lie and continue to cheat on him. be honest and just tell him. why.

Answer 6

sorry no real good advice on my part. i dont have much luck with love. my girlfriend is finishing her divorce but for some reason wont pull the trigger and sign the papers. she hates the man why not just do it. she tell me she loves me but is scared. i'm younger. is there something about older women and younger guys.. i'm 33 she's 36.. i guess they like us cause we have stamina and energy. i say go with you heart. together you two can have financial stability

Answer 7

Hope your hubby doesn't find out and you lose them both, thats how it usually works out. I really don't know what to tell you and you are apparently too selfish to listen anyway, you are doing nothing more than using both of them. What are you going to do when your turn comes around?

Answer 8

Love the one you are with . . . if you don't love him, then you guys need to get a divorce . . . you are being selfish by staying with your husband while having your kicks for the last few years . . . get a divorce or leave the boyfriend . . . you are being unfair to three people here . . . both men and yourself

Answer 9

The first place to start is stop thinking of only yourself. I do not think you are any good for either man. It is not about a relationship it is about what you can get out of these men.

Answer 10

Way to be scum! The only thing you have in common is his money you mean. Let's see Cheater, Liar, Taking money under false pretext, that would be Theif. Why would anyone really be interested in helping you.