Cheated, Lied, tried to lower my self esteem, neglecting his responsiblity to our kids!......... Im sick of always being nice, I took him back after he cheated and now he leaves me alone w/ 2 kids and no money, while he spends it on himself!!----I am angry. should i go that route?
2006-07-30 12:27:55 · 42 answers · asked by this is me... 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO!! DON'T BECOME HIM. LEAVE AND DON'T LOOK BACK. YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN DESERVE SO MUCH MORE. SHOW YOUR CHILDREN THE RIGHT WAY TO BE!!
2006-07-30 12:31:10 · answer #1 · answered by tas-okay 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Revenge won't do you any good and certainly won't make you feel better about yourself. Yes he's an a$$ but you did take him back after you already knew what he was so its kind of like being angry and the dealer when you lose at cards in the casino, you chose to take a gamble, one you had to know you probably wouldn't win at. File for child support and make it as difficult as possible, you have every right to some of that money, its not revenge its responsibility, his and its about time he started showing some. Remember success is the best revenge, getting your life together, being happy and successful is the best revenge you can get on a loser like this. After all you know he's going nowhere so later on when you pass him by just wave and wink.
2006-07-30 12:38:44 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay lets be honest here. You know yourself you don't want to go that route your are looking for support to leave him and that is what you need. Yes i support you I done walked those shoes and I got out while I could and wont go back. Most likely he is still cheating on you and laughing about it behind your back and that is not fair for you or the kids. He should be a better role model for your kids. You should take a stand and leave him and show him that you are in charge of your life and don't need him at all. You don't need him to tear you down and make you feel bad and ruin your life. You have children that are counting on you to be a good role model for them don't give in to that and let him teach them to do what he does that is not right for them to see.
2006-07-30 12:37:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definantly go the divorce route, if you haven't already, once a cheater, usually always a cheater, very few exceptions.
There are plenty of really nice men out there, that wouldn't mind being with a married woman, and would never cheat on you. (thats if you feel you want to get remarried, sometimes its alot easier, and it's very comforting. my mom never remarried or never dated for 20 years, and i wish she had.)
Make sure you tell the divorce lawyer, he commited adultery/infideltiy. Thats alot more gain on your side, because you stuck to your guns. I would keep the children, in your custidy, because from what it seems, he's selfish, and misleading, which is no place for children to be. Make sure your children understand that you are not only doing this for yourself, but for a better future, for them, and that it will be rocky, but very rewarding.
(ex: arguments with their father, or you being upset, and maybe a little touchy.)
Keep their moral up, or it could effect your charisma, through the situation.
Try to be a strong woman, and know that you are representing us all, and know that there are many people out there, that would do the same thing, if given your situation.
2006-07-30 12:31:33 · answer #4 · answered by anjui63 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get A Real Man Thats Gonna Take Care Of You And the Kids
2006-07-30 12:31:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you want with him If you want to seek revenge theres 2 website a woman or girl should know. Here they are to report him so that everyone knows how he is because some day some girl will want to date him and she sees hes a liar and cheat she will think twice. http://www.dontdatehimgirl.com/home/
http://www.ripoffreport.com Hes the one who should have been good. Now you can get even without him knowing about it. Put his name picture and everything up of him on those websites you will be relieved.
2006-07-30 12:35:05 · answer #6 · answered by girl176a1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your anger, I was in your shoes once. Revenge seems like the thing you want now because your mad, but with a sweet nature like yours, you might actually end up regreting it. The best revenge is to make a great life for yourself, and treat him like he doesn't even exist. Someday he will see how wonderful are and regret the way he treated you. You are too good for him, and you are better off alone than with an emotionally draining jerk.
2006-07-30 12:35:34 · answer #7 · answered by R C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you had no children, I'd say go for it and punish him as much as possible. But, you do have children and you need to do what is right for them.
File for divorce, get possession of the house, and custody of the kids. If you live in a community property state, use the cheating as a way to get as much of the community property as you can.
But, when you do all this, do it as calmly, as quietly, and as rationally as you can. You have to make it possble for you to be civil with each other when the children are around.
2006-07-30 12:34:31 · answer #8 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I swear I am in the same situation like you and now I wanna get my apartment but since i am the only one during everything I can't save no money to get it. It pisses me off so bad that I am thinking of getting revenge by putting him on child support. That's probably a option for you since he has a job which my baby daddy don't have. Now that I am pregnant nobody want hire me for a second job (part-time).
2006-07-30 12:40:00 · answer #9 · answered by 2Hott2Touch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why, ?? yeah its satisfaction but only for a moment.. but the guilt with knowing that your no better then they are lasts a life time.. me i get all my info on my x, i keep it locked up, as long as he doesnt push my limits, thats where it stays, but he's lost every battle in court because, i use information provided to me against him, usually things out of his own mouth that he never thought would hurt him, I keep my pride, and i get to win.. so pick and choose your battles wisely, ur children need a good role model.. and you need to have pride in yourself..to know u did it all the right way.. and dont forget, what goes around, comes around.. so he will get his.. eventually..
2006-07-30 12:41:39 · answer #10 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge hurts the revenger as much as the vengee. Don't go down that road. Move on. Let your confidence and dreams grow again. Let go of this pain-- in time, even, forgive him. If not to his face, at least in your heart. By holding this pain, you only poison your own soul.
Believe in Cosmic Justice (God, karma, or whatever). Rest assured, he will eventually get his comeuppance.
But if you havent yet, dump him already!
2006-07-30 12:28:57 · answer #11 · answered by T-Bone 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋