2006-07-30 12:15:32 · 14 answers · asked by JB2000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Might be normal but might also be your brain trying to tell you that you are about to make a huge mistake. Here are some things to think about before getting married, I hope it helps...
You should go through with it when you have been together long enough to be out of the infatuation stage. When you have discussed ALL the issues involved in life after the wedding like finances, division of household labor, children, in laws, where to live, jobs, time away with friends, and a million other things you haven't thought of. After all of that you consider each part of the vows, and what you consider is the difficult side of them, anybody can be happy when things are going well so,
richer or poorer....still want to be with them in a shack with crackers ala peanut butter for dinner...for the fourth night in a row?
sickness and health...they develop a chronic physical or mental illness and can't get around and can't work, still want to be there?
better or worse...they are in a car accident and you have to spend the rest of your life feeding them and changing their diapers, still want to be married?
keep yourself only to him or her, can you REALLY only have sex with only that person until you die?
THIS is what marriage is, not a fairy tale where everything goes well everyday, the one guarantee you have is that things WILL go wrong. Remember, you answer all these questions after you have passed infatuation, after you know what their bad points are (yes they have some and so do you) and still consider it anyway.
If you think you are up for all of this then maybe you should think about it. Don't forget to consider whether they would stick by you if it was you in any or all of the above scenarios. Check out the question posted here by married people and keep in mind that all of them thought this was the thing to do and the ONE for them when they got married too! We have seen examples of each one of those scenarios posted in questions here.
2006-07-30 12:42:31 · answer #1 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
marriage is a scary step its normal to have second thoughts just push through it if you were sure before the thoughts came then its just cold feet dont worry about it everything will be okay. Congratulations it is hard to find someone to spend your life with You have something i envy I'm sure the two of you will have a wonderful life.
2006-07-30 19:30:55 · answer #2 · answered by lil sis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having second and third thoughts is normal. You need to sit down and have a heart to heart with your partner. Maybe even seek some professional help.
Good Luck to you both.
QTI
2006-07-30 19:21:32 · answer #3 · answered by qti36 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When in doubt, don't is the motto you need to adapt. If you're having second thoughts, and they are valid, not just "cold feet", you need to postpone the wedding, or call it off altogether.
2006-07-30 19:25:34 · answer #4 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes. Take some quiet time by yourself away from all the wedding planning to just remember why you are actually getting married.
Good luck.
2006-07-30 19:27:47 · answer #5 · answered by Stacy J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone gets "coldfeet", but if you are thinking too hard about it then maybe you should hold off or maybe you should talk to him/her first and find out how they feel. Afterall, what's the rush ????
2006-07-30 19:24:43 · answer #6 · answered by christine b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its normal.But i wish i would have lessened to myself. when I was having second thoughts.about marring my ex husband. cause i would have never married him.good luck
2006-07-30 19:28:30 · answer #7 · answered by Angel sent from heaven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone gets cold feet remember if it doesnt work out you can always divorce
2006-07-30 19:19:56 · answer #8 · answered by arielcowgirl_2010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes they call that cold feet, and sometimes thats your instincts telling you its not a great idea.
2006-07-30 19:44:09 · answer #9 · answered by R C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PEOPLE SAY IT IS,BUT I SAY IF YOU ARE HAVING SECOND THOUGHTS,IT IS YOUR INNER SELF TELL YOU THIS AIN'T RIGHT,GOOD LUCK
2006-07-30 19:19:59 · answer #10 · answered by John 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋