MY HUSBAND HAS RECENTLY MOVED HIS AUNT AND UNCLE INTO OUR HOUSE,THEY ARE NEW TO THIS COUNTRY.THE UNCLE IS IN HIS MIDDLE SIXTIES AND THE AUNT IS IN HER LATE 40'S THEY ARE HAVING TROUBLE FINDING WORK WHICH MEANS MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE TO SUPPORT THEM. I HAVE GROWN VERY FRUSTATED WITH MY SITUATION TO THE POINT WHERE I DON'T WANT TO EVEN SAY HELLO WHEN I ENTER MY HOUSE. I STAY IN MY ROOM MOST OF THE TIME. I CAN NO LONGER WALK AROUND IN MY UNDERWEAR ANYMORE BECAUSE OF THEM, I FEEL AS IF I CAN NOT BE MYSELF ANYMORE AND MY BILLS HAVE GONE UP. WILL SOMEONE PLEASE TELL ME HOW TO DEAL WITH THIS SITUATION?
2006-07-30 12:03:34 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The first thing or question I have to ask is, Did your husband speak with you BEFORE he moved his aunt and uncle in? If he did not speak with you first then it is time to put your foot down so to speak. I KNOW family is family is family. BUT WIFE IS FIRST. You need to sit down with him and put some rules into place. Something that IS agreeable with both of you. MIND you now that the aunt and uncle do not have to agree about anything. You and hubby work it out and aunty and uncle like it or leave. THEIR Choice.
2006-07-30 14:15:30 · answer #1 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I went through this with my husbands brother. He was lazy did nothing all day long ..oh except for watch TV..Eat..Play games on the computer.Eat..Eat..watch TV..Eat. He had no job and we were supporting him. I talked to my husband and let him know how frustrated I was. I helped him for four months and then we sent him on his way. PRAY>>PRAY>>PRAY! These people seem like they really need the help right now and if they are trying to find a job, then it may take time. God may have put them in your life for a reason. Remember God doesn't give you more than you can handle. And you never know one day you might need the help in return. Life can change so quickly. You may be in there shoes one day, how would you want to be treated? Good luck to you.
2006-07-30 19:20:52 · answer #2 · answered by e_deckwa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to consider having a talk with your husband - or if you don't particularly want to talk to him, consider marital counseling, whether with your church or with a psychiatric office.
Having some form of outlet for your frustration should help - and your husband may not be aware of how much of an effect his relatives are having on you and your feelings. Best wishes. :)
2006-07-30 19:08:38 · answer #3 · answered by Synique 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry, but you have to be patient. they are going to have a lot of trouble finding a job, because of their age. you need to talk to your husband and come to an agreement meet halve way. you cant kick them out of your house. where would they go?
2006-07-30 19:23:42 · answer #4 · answered by jannygirl31 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are the Aunt and Uncle illegal immigrants?
2006-07-30 19:07:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you seem alot more patient then i do. i would kick them out of the house if it was me in ur place. it shouldnt be that hard for them to get a job.
2006-07-30 19:08:31 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband how you feel.
2006-07-30 19:07:26 · answer #7 · answered by CVASS20 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TALK TALK TALK TALK TO UR HUSBANAD NOW!!!
2006-07-30 19:08:19 · answer #8 · answered by SeeKer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋