If you were messing with a married women and for some reason now you feel like crap and know its wrong and you want out. How would you tell her or should you just leave her alone.
2006-07-30 11:38:55 · 38 answers · asked by Jack J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just tell her. I can no longer live like this. Us being together is wrong. Our relationship can never work because it was wrong to begin with.
Good Luck!
QTI
2006-07-30 12:03:09 · answer #1 · answered by qti36 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should tell the woman how you feel. She will probably try talking you out of it when you tell her that you want out. Don't let her do this to you. Let her know that you are not comfortable with the situation any more and that you want out. Tell her that you don't want to be the reason for her marriage to fail, and she should work on it.
If you do care about her, tell her that if she gets divorced, she can give you a call and you can start dating.
She may try contacting you after you break it off, because no one likes rejection and she likes the situation. Be strong though, you know that it's wrong and it makes you feel bad. So prepare yourself for this and expect her to call again.
2006-07-30 12:02:03 · answer #2 · answered by blue eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leaving her alone is the what most women expect men to do. You should be up front, tell her you are no longer interested and get out as quick as you can. This may hurt initially but best in the long run. Good Luck!
2006-07-30 11:42:34 · answer #3 · answered by sfs_onfridays 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are feeling regret for what youve done. The only manly thing to do is to be true and come clean and tell your wife all. Dont expect her to treat this with loving open arms but remember you did it to yourself, not her. True you dont have to tell her, but if she ever finds out and it happens,then you have two wrongs to deal with. Was this mess really worth losing everything you had and for what? If you need a manly start, a good place would be "Honey, I made a really big mistake in judgement" and then get ready for all Hell to break loose, and prepare for the worse,cause its coming. Of all the stupid things,us guys get into, affairs are the worst. Good luck
2006-07-30 11:55:12 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships like this one do not ordinarily last for a reason. Be upfront and honest. Dont give ultimatums because they dont work and only cause resentment. It may hurt a bit but by being straight forward and honest will be your best bet. Get it done and over with and move on with your life. Its too short to waste. Good luck!
2006-07-30 11:43:28 · answer #5 · answered by SilverWolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break it off honestly. Tell her you feel bad about interfering in a marriage and that you're going to stop. Then stop.
Are you married or in a serious relationship? If so, you need to see a counselor with your wife or significant other and work through all this.
2006-07-30 11:42:51 · answer #6 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its been a while, that youve been dealing with her, Its your duty to tell her, if you think you will get weak for her again, tell her over the phone, if she indicates to you, she doesnt want it to end, then show her better than you tell her, by not accepting calls,etc, not returning messages, shell give up eventually.
p.s i hope this is no one you work with then, its someone you wont be able to avoid seeing.
Im happy you have come to your senses after all if she does it to her husband, she would cheat on you, as well.find someone unattached that you can be happy with.I wish you the best!
2006-07-30 11:54:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be honest and tell the women that you love your wife too much. Just think about how you would feel if the same thing was happening to you. I say be nice but tell her you cant anymore.
2006-07-30 11:49:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am glad that you are following your feelings. You just have to tell her that you cannot be doing that because you know that she is married and that she needs to be with her husband. If she cannot respect that , then she is low for not wanting to do the right thing. Don't let her lure you back in with her with her feelings and emotions. You just have to let it go.
2006-07-30 11:43:57 · answer #9 · answered by HappyCat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just leave her alone don't answer her calls or talk to her becuase most likely talking to her will only confuse you more. But I'm glad you made that decision that women is terrible for doing that to her husband and you should deffinitly get out while you can
2006-07-30 11:41:58 · answer #10 · answered by MelC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋