My wife told me she did not talk to this guy on the phone. The phone bill came and it shows that she has. I wondered this cause he texted her phone to. I got her password and found out that she has e mailed him and told him alot of things I dont like. He is married and is in the army and so are we. She told him that she wanted to do things to him. Thats what I got from the e mail. I talked to her and she said she is in iraq and she was just talking to him flirting and she loves me and wants to be with me. She said she is human and she was just flirting cause she was in iraq but some of her emails where before iraq. I love her to death and I am crazy about her. What should i do?
2006-07-30 11:34:13 · 11 answers · asked by kinghillery 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should be talking to your wife. The two of you need to open up to each other and decide if you want to work on your marriage. You should seek some professional help.
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2006-07-30 11:57:06 · answer #1 · answered by qti36 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to think about that its not having what you want but wanting what you got. Seriously, if you really want to save your marriage, then get her into counseling, Lying is usually a result of some unknown underlying reason. Maybe what she says about flirting is true but then she should come clean with you. This is where counseling will help, but if you both dont want the same thing, all the counseling in the world wont help. Just be prepared for anything to happen and have a plan B to fall back on in case. Good luck
2006-07-30 11:45:51 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that. She is obviously not just flirting. I do not understand why she wants to cheat like that. I understand that you are in love with her and very crazy about her, but evidentally she is not all that crazy about you, otherwise she would not be flirting with another man and talking dirty to him. She has some severe issues. She needs to stop cheating.
It sounds to me like counseling is really needed. You should try to get her to open up to YOU as well, but I highly recommend counseling. If she refuses or if the cheating continues, then as hard as it is, you need to leave her. She obviously has some issues, otherwise she would not be doing what it is that she is doing.
I feel very sorry for you and my heart goes out to you. I imagine that there is a lot of heartbreak and a lot of confusion
It's difficult when you love someone so much and they do not offer those same feelings in return. I also feel sorry for that other man's wife .
2006-07-30 11:56:28 · answer #3 · answered by HappyCat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk to her about it. Not argue because it will not accomplish anything. Just ask her straight up why she lied and that you know the truth. I would just ask if there's a problem in our relationship I would like to know so maybe we can correct it. There is a problem and the only way to find out is to talk about it.
2006-07-30 11:44:31 · answer #4 · answered by twinsmakesfive 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't believe what she said when you got proof right there in front of you. Don't be blind by here beauty she's been playing you just tell her that yawl need to work things out by going to counsling or something that can save your marriage.
2006-07-30 11:44:50 · answer #5 · answered by missy979bryantx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop spending all your time online and go be a husband. Why do you think she's sneaking around in the first place? Maybe she is lonely because her husband isn't paying her enough attention?
2006-07-30 11:48:26 · answer #6 · answered by art_tchr_phx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i lived through a marriage full of lies. I am sorry to say that it probably won't get better. I encourage you to try to communicate with her about this. If the lies continue, get out. It hurts my heart to know that this happens so often.
2006-07-30 11:48:07 · answer #7 · answered by just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately if she lied to you about the phone and emails then she has probably already lied to you about other things
2006-07-30 11:42:19 · answer #8 · answered by browneyedgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
divorce, however he could get in alot of trouble since she is married
2006-07-30 11:53:14 · answer #9 · answered by cnkbrum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her not to lie again or you will divorce her.
2006-07-30 21:20:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋