My wife told me she did not talk to this guy on the phone. The phone bill came and it shows that she has. I wondered this cause he texted her phone to. I got her password and found out that she has e mailed him and told him alot of things I dont like. He is married and is in the army and so are we. She told him that she wanted to do things to him. Thats what I got from the e mail. I talked to her and she said she is in iraq and she was just talking to him flirting and she loves me and wants to be with me. She said she is human and she was just flirting cause she was in iraq but some of her emails where before iraq. I love her to death and I am crazy about her. What should i do?
2006-07-30 11:33:45 · 37 answers · asked by kinghillery 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you too shoud have a serious talk
2006-07-30 11:35:23 · answer #1 · answered by Pearl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not flirt with you?then when she comes back you both with be hot and ready. It sounds like she likes the attention of other men I had that problem my husband was flirting with all these women I told him your wellcome to leave any time I'm not going to hold you back maybe a little counseling could help if she keeps this up then the best thing to do is hang it up when people start to text message and talk on the phone it's more on the personal point.
2006-07-30 11:42:11 · answer #2 · answered by stefania_n2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Her dabbling in letter cheating is not acceptable for ANY reason.
Quit being a freaking doormat for her to walk on.
Don't listen to her words. Words can lie.
Actions don't lie!!!
Tell her just that, and tell her that you EXPECT your wife to conduct herself within respectable boundaries
a GOOD wife does.
A good wife would not disrespect you in this way!!!
Get counseling if she won't listen, even if you have to go by yourself.
Whatever you do, don't come off as whiney and desperate (even if you really feel that way). Whining gives her power.
Lay down the (reasonable) laws and expectations, and if she ignores then, with whatever EXCUSES,
tell her that there will be "serious consequences" and don't be "smiling" or "whining" when you say that.
Then walk out the freaking door, and stay gone for a few hours, which will give her time to think over what you said.
Dont' discuss this further. Regain your power as a husband that should get respect and loyality.
Do the counseling, and put your house in order.
If she does it again, then you must decide the penalty, and if you want to be with a wife that "cheats", even in letters.
Talk to her calmly, but with fire in your eyes, and mean what you say.
stw
;p
2006-07-30 11:45:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah..It must really hurt for you to go through this. First thing you should do is stop snooping on your wife. Do you trust her? If you do then stop. Second thing you should do (might be a bit drastic) is to go to Iraq and show your love for her (get down on one knees and give her flowers) in front of all your army buddies. That will make her feel really special. If you can't find any way to trust your wife and your really uncomfortable with what she is doing, then I maybe some marriage counseling will help.
2006-07-30 11:39:24 · answer #4 · answered by Jason 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey budd, what i think u should do is collect any information u have and wait till she gets back tlak to her on the phone normally like nothin had happend like u have dropped it or on msn or how ever u communicate with her and when she gets back talk with her and let her know all this information things like that, maybe when she gets back she was telling the truth, u gotta see if this goes on after she gets back as well and if it does then u know it wasnt juss cuz she was in iraq, but i give u the best of luck hope things work out for the best.
2006-07-30 11:41:10 · answer #5 · answered by JoJo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Expect truth not lies from the woman you are married to. Accepting deception is accepting a relationship with no values. Tell her you wont accept her flirting with other men. That you love her but you want her respect in this relationship. If she truely loves you?..she will honor the commitments you have made to each other.Be the man she turns to when she's lonely and needs affection.
2006-07-30 11:40:10 · answer #6 · answered by mojorocks555 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you know about the phone calls and the emails that she sent that guy.... Tell her that you love her to death and that you want to be with her but we need to talk about this problem.... you need to confront her about it....... then mabey she will tell you what has been going on and mabey she will stop what ever she is doing and just be with you but dont tell her off to much other wise if she is in iraq you might jinqs somthin and that wouldnt be good
2006-07-30 11:39:47 · answer #7 · answered by Madtown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude that's a hard one. I can tell you love her so I would try talking to her an telling her it's not very nice of her to flirt with other married men. I am sure she would not like it if you flirted with other girls. Give her another chance after that and see what happens. If she continues to do it then you might want to think of opting out. Good Luck
2006-07-30 11:38:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she needs some flirting from you send her some text messages, make up a new email addy n email her ( of course some how lettin her know it is you )You know thing you would b the only one to know........ Do some flirting with her maybe she is feeling alone n needs some spice ,,,,,,, you were her favorite flavor in the past make it happen again .....good luck
2006-07-30 11:44:13 · answer #9 · answered by chantelle_s_l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's not a devoted wife and you are wasting your time. She did those things behind your back and in a sense it is cheating. Forgive her if you want but they're are plenty of women out there to be crazy about and it only takes a couple weeks to fall in love.
2006-07-30 11:39:45 · answer #10 · answered by furious but whatever 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you don't have children with this woman. Your best choice even though you don't want to face it at this time is a divorce. A liar, is a liar, is a liar. It's a huge character flaw. How can you really be in love with a person with such a bad character? Think about it. Divorce before it is too late.
2006-07-30 11:38:50 · answer #11 · answered by papricka w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋