Are there any other ways to satisfy a woman?

Question

I suffer from Premature Ejaculation........and I feel so pain about it that I can not approach any girl due to this. My question is that can anyone (me in this case) still make a woman satisfy during sex by doing some (If yes then what are those tricks) other things. I feel that one minute is not at all sufficient for any woman and feel very bad about it....I feel like less man...

Answer 1

One minute CAN be enough to satisfy a woman -- if it's the right minute. In other words, if it takes her fourteen minutes to reach orgasm (a statistical average I've read), this just means that you have to stimulate her in some other way for the first thirteen minutes.

There are LOTS of things you can do, some of which may help you with premature ejaculation, and ALL of which are fun. They basically fall into two categories -- things to do before and things to do after.

To begin with, start to think of sex as being the whole package, from the moment you start undoing your clothes to the moment you both lie back breathless and sticky. Kiss her, hold her, and explore her; find out what excites her. It may be stroking her sides, running your hands over her thighs, or playing with her breasts and nipples. Some women go wild when their ears are nibbled, some love to have you stroke and kiss the sides of their throat. Find out! Explore! Go wild!

But mainly, take your time getting into her pants, whether with your hands or your tongue or anything else. Don't jump on the "main attraction" right away -- find out what she likes and keep doing that for a long time before you even touch her genitals (or she touches yours). You need to warm her up gradually, emotionally as well as physically.

Once she encourages you to start on her genitals, play with her lightly. You may enjoy stimulating her orally; ask her to show you where she likes to be pleasured, then do that with your fingers and tongue. But do remember to change your pace, AND your place, from time to time -- if you rub, massage, stroke or lick the same spot for too long, it will get slightly numb, and that's no fun for either of you.

The idea is to continue to arouse her till she's at the very brink of having an orgasm. Then, when she is at the "edge of the waterfall," so to speak, THAT is when you enter her.

The idea is all about timing -- if you only last a minute, it's no problem if she's only thirty seconds away from finishing when YOU start.

Now, all of that is stuff you can do before intercourse. If you two are really intimate and you're really giving yourself to her, this'll be enough. (Even though I don't have a problem with premature ejaculation, we STILL do more or less the same thing when my wife really needs a sure-fire, shattering orgasm. And sometimes when we've really been playing with each other for 30 or 40 minutes, the actual time that I'm inside her is barely more than a minute. The intensity of her climax is far more important than time of penetration...)

But as I said before, there are ALSO many things you can do afterward. It sometimes happens that the timing isn't quite right, even for couples without a problem involving premature ejaculation; instead of having her finish a few seconds before you, you finish and she's still a ways away from her own climax. In these cases, if she's really close, you can roll onto your back and have her straddle your hips, riding you like a horse. If you're still erect (I sometimes remain fully erect for a minute or two after my own ejaculation), she can put you inside her and ride you to her own climax; many women find it sometimes easier to climax when they're in charge of thjeir movements.

Another tip... if you've already finished, it's easier for you to pay attention to what she likes, what she does to pleasure herself with you, because you're not on autopilot trying to ram it home till you explode. You have more time to take note of what she likes, and the next time you're together, you can do the same kind of movements on her.

If your erection subsides enough after you finish that she can't really keep it inside you, the next best thing is for her to lay your penis flat on your abdomen, pointing up towards your navel, and then place herself on you so that her clitoris is rubbing on your penis (you can help position everything, moving her pubic hair and labia so that her clitoris gets the most direct contact possible). If you're not using a barrier method of birth control, she'll be very slippery from your ejaculation; if you are using a condom, make sure it doesn't slide off you when she's riding you.

Even if you're not erect, it's possible for a woman to have a VERY satisfying orgasm this way. And trust me on this... even if you've already come, this can be VERY enjoyable for the guy involved. The woman you love is sitting across your genitals, naked, writhing in pleasure and moaning in ecstasy, bouncing up and down on you and finally crying out and shuddering in pleasure, and you can feel her genitals twitching on yours in satisfaction. If I think about this much more, I'm going to have to write the rest of this answer later... :-)

There's still more, though. In some cases, when we've timed it not quite right and I've finished first and my wife is more than a minute or two away, we'll lie next to each other and go back to foreplay (kissing, playing with her nipples, etc.), then I'll finish her by hand. It's a REAL thrill for me to slip two fingers inside her as she's climaxing, and feel the muscles around her opening twitch and clamp down on me as she goes over the cliff. Just be sure you let her "drive" at this time -- some women get almost painfully sensitive in one spot or another as they reach orgasm, so let her put your hand where it gives her the most pleasure.

The thing is, if you really love each other and really turn each other on, it genuinely doesn't matter who finishes first. Being sexually intimate with my wife is something I love so much that there have been times it wasn't necessary to climax myself, it was enough just to drive her to a shattering finish. But we've been together a long, long time and one thing we've learned is that we'll take care of each other sexually, if not now then tomorrow, or the next day. (The last time it happened that she came and I didn't, she MORE than made it up to me the following night.)

One final thought: there are exercises and techniques you can use to delay your own ejaculation. You can either ask a separate question about that or you can search for solutions on the Web. They're a lot of fun too -- basically you have your sweetie bring you to about the 95% mark, then stop and wait for thirty seconds, then repeat. You'll learn to control your own pace that way.

You can also rely on the fact that a man's second ejaculation in a period of a few hours typically takes a LOT more stimulation than his first, so arrange to get the first one out of the way early. You can do this by yourself if you need to, or have her help out. So if you think you're up to ejaculating several times a night, try that out. In the worst case, you get to come twice, which is certainly one definition of a win-win situation. :-)

Answer 2

You will get over this. It will just take a while to learn to manage your arousal level.

In the meantime, learn everything you can about kissing, touching, massage, cunnilingus, and analingus. I recommend two books: "The Senuous Man" and "The Sensuous Woman". Read them both.

Also, be up front with your lover about your sexual response. Let her know that you want to please her and she can help by telling you what she likes. (This is always good anyway.) She can probably help by giving your a hand job or fellatio to start things off. You can reciprocate and then move on to intercourse after the edge is off.

Remember, most women want to experience closeness, intimacy, and orgasms. So sharing all this and working through with your lover can actually help with the closeness and intimacy.

I put a bunch of links below about cunnilingus and premature ejaculation. Check them out.

Good Luck.

Answer 3

what you need to do is learn to use them fingers and that tongue and go downstairs on her. spend no less that 20 to 30 minutes down there. that should be step one. next try some sort of desensetizer, it doesn't always work but its worth a shot. also, when you start to feel like you are going to bust off, pull out and go down on her again until you cool down and then get back to business. keep doing this until she has a few orgasms and then finish and call it a night. once you get a few good fuks in you will be more confident and it will happen less often. Usually its a psychological thing.

Answer 4

women are more turned on by the thoughts in our head then what is going on for real. I recommend doing what you can with your fingers and tongue and explore, have fun! It's going to take some time to get to know what does it for her. One minute isn't long, but if you don't "finish" and 5 minutes later do it for another minute, that one time a minute might be all she needs to finish herself off

Answer 5

Do a lot of fore play and of course the oral and fingers and maybe get a toy or two and don't feel shame about your problem If the women you're with can't deal then they are not for you.

Answer 6

OMG get over it! Learn to make love to a woman with your hands and fingers and tongue and lips. This is the BEST! By the time you have given her a dozen orgasms, she won't notice how soon you ejaculate.

Answer 7

You need to rebuild your own self esteem first,before anything.Talk to your Dr about remedies or products to help.Try masturbating before sexual relations,so you will last longer.Then,to answer your q,of course women love foreplay and kissing and oral and I love to give oral,because believe it or not,it turns me on to see him being pleased.:)

Answer 8

do oral, fingers, or whatever. then jack off a lot. i think that's suppose to help stamina. so yeah jack off a lot... A LOT.

So when you do jack off, do you only last a minute too or what?

Answer 9

yeah i can understand where you and the woman might be frustrated... have you ever thought about oral sex...that is a thought anyway......and maybe your doctor will subscribe viagra for you... i have heard about this lasting for hours...

Answer 10

Love, commitment and sincerity are much better (and more reliable) "turn-ons" than great physical endowment.

Answer 11

Well, try to eja.... a couple of times before you go with her!