IF YOUR EX IS STILL IN LOVE WITH YOU AND YOU KNOW HE IS , IS IT OKAY TO STILL TALK TO HIM , WITHOUT YOUR SPOUSE BEING MAD... AND HOW TO EXPLAIN TO HIM THE REASON YOU WERE TALKING TO YOUR EX INTHE FIRST PLACE? REAL ANSWERS PLEASE
2006-07-30 10:20:35 · 31 answers · asked by eye candy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If hes still inlove with you or you still have feelings its not fair to anyone involved to keep hope alive. Youve moved on married someone else and unless you have kids with the ex there is no reason to keep him hoping. It could damage your current relationship and create trust issues.
2006-07-30 10:28:09 · answer #1 · answered by lil sis 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, without adding your spouse to the mix, yes you can still talk to him as long as first you were upfront and said you don't have feelings for him anymore. Bringing your spouse back into it, I would take caution. No matter how much you try to explain it is strictly platonic, that is a lot for a guy (or girl) to handle. If this spouse is the one, then I would say it's best to stay away from the ex.
2006-07-30 10:23:42 · answer #2 · answered by quirkyk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't risk your current relationship for the sake of your Ex, if you have to choose, drop your ex, its the advice a professional would give you, having your ex's stick around when there is still feelings between you or if your ex still has feelings for you is just asking for trouble - Don't lose your spouse, Tell your ex straight that you need to part ways because he can't seem to move on - and needs to accept you are with someone else now.
2006-07-30 10:24:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay I am in a similar situation. I like talking to my ex even though I know he still likes me because it makes me feel good for him to see that someone loves and respects me better than he did. My spouse doesn't know we still talk. If he did then he wouldn't be happy about it so make sure you keep it on the low if that is what you choose to do. Good luck on your situation.
2006-07-30 10:24:22 · answer #4 · answered by adkfoaiefnafedw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully? Are you looking for a divorce???
Why would you want to be friends with an ex and knowing they are still in love with you??? I would look to get the attention from your husband... not trying to be rude, but being sympathetic to your ex is just going to cause you to loose the best things in your life you have now or in the future.
He's your ex for a reason and it's better to remember why you wanted him as an ex and kept him that way than to entertain any sort of fantasy or thought he might try to manipulate you in. DON"T FALL FOR IT... your ex is responsible for his feelings and his behaviour NOT you. You can't fix him, nor should you try. If he can't get over you that's on his shoulders and he should seek therapy.
It is best to be honest with your husband if you want to keep your marriage. Let your husband in on this so you both can become a united front and let your ex down together and tell him to leave you alone. You don't want your ex to have anything secret on you and use that to coherse you into doing something you shouldn't.
You could and should sever ties with your ex and then perhaps approach your husband and let him know that you have no more dealings with your ex so he doesn't worry that he might have competition.
You are gonna have some making up to do with your husband, because your husband may feel betrayed in some capacity because he is going to think WHY ? What does her EX have that I don't????
Have to say you have put your marriage in jeapordy, and it's up to you to make this right. You have your work cut out for you but it isn't damaged... just shower your hubby with your affections and sit down and have a heart to heart with him...
perhaps seek therapy for yourself to sort out feelings you can't recognize on your own.
You have to be honest with those involved and with yourself. You have to ask yourself why you are maintiaining a relationship with someone you know you shouldn't. What do you want in your life? Who ? You can't have both.
God Bless,
Shannon
2006-07-30 10:36:08 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no harm in JUST TALKING to an ex. There are exes that talk all of the time when they are married because there are children involved or issues that need to be resolved. I think that if you talk to your ex, it is only fair for your new husband to become involved as well. That way he is okay with it and no hardly feelings develop or feelings of mistrust.
2006-07-30 10:25:31 · answer #6 · answered by HappyCat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just end the ties that way there will be no chance of a dispute. If you love or really like him let the past be the past. Unless there are kids involved then you have no choice but to try to be cival with your ex. PLUS DONT LEAD YOUR EX ON......
2006-07-30 10:26:59 · answer #7 · answered by 800 bound 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me I dont think it's good not specialy if he's still in love with you. It will not help him from forgetting you instead making it worst the feeling and sooner it will cause a problem. Not unless it's really important matter not about love or relationship maybe you will. But it's better not and avoid him.
2006-07-30 10:26:15 · answer #8 · answered by princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it ok to talk to him but your spouse may have insecurities especially if he knows your ex is still in love with u maybe it not good idea to keep in contact if u want your relationship with your spouse or stop and think is your talking to your ex worh possibly loosing your current spouse out of respect of him maybe it not a good idea
2006-07-30 10:25:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i dont think its very nice to talk to your ex if he`s still in love with you. He`s bound to make a move on you eventually and as you`re married, its the wrong thing to do.
Why were you talking to your ex? Do you fancy him too?
2006-07-30 10:24:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋