I've known him for 25 years and he is like my best friend, he is always there for me in emergencies, and I now live with him with my kids (by him) because of circumstances of hardship. Here's the problem, I have a boyfriend of 4 years. Him and my x are also friends and my x helps him in situations as well, but my current boyfriend has a problem with the situation whenever he is not around. I don't think there is anything wrong with my friendship to my x and I admire him for the way he treats me and my boyfriend. I think its a good thing to be friends with the father of your children and I think its healthy for them to be around. How could it be anything but good for them to witness. Another thing is other people always think it's "wierd" or they like to think dirty in the situation. I've been judged like that, although it doesnt really matter what others think, I'd like to hear a few opinions from outsiders .I was married for 9 years and my x is 15 years older.(if that helps) Well??...
2006-07-30 10:19:02 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow,I guess there really are exceptions to everything taught in school. I would have thought this is a very dangerous situation, but it sounds like all of you are ok with the living arrangement and are comfortable with each other. Awesome. This is rarely heard of, especially nowadays. People are scared of things they dont understand and this is one of them, and so they, like little kids, ridicule you and yours for what you have which is probably far better then their life. But like you say , if you guys are truly happy with this arrangement, then it really doesnt matter what anyone says about it. Truthfully,you guys have met head on a challenge and have successfully overcome it and about 99% of the worlds adult population could not have done it. So congrats on beating the odds and keep right on going! Good luck
2006-07-30 10:50:39 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say since it is for hardship reasons and everyone in this triangle understood that what is wrong with it? It shows your ex to be a nice person to allow you to live with him while going through some hard times. People will talk no matter what the situation is so I would not worry about that at all. The kids are the most important and hope they understand all of this.
2006-07-30 10:25:28 · answer #2 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your current b/f know that there is nothing to be suspicious of? Or does he have reason to be suspicious or jealous? Why are you not living with the boyfriend? It can't be because you aren't married to him... after all, you are no longer married to your ex but are sharing a residence with him.
And I do agree that it is good that you and the ex are still friends, at least because of the kids. The only thing I think is weird about the situation, is that if you were going to be living with the ex, why didn't the b/f move in with him also? Why not just move in with the b/f?
2006-07-30 10:40:01 · answer #3 · answered by truthseeker909 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister, her ex and her husband were like this too. It worked fine for them. These issues are your bf's and he needs to figure them out for himself. He either accepts it or he doesn't. Besides if you had to go live with your ex instead of your bf when things got hard I think thats a clear indication of who really has your back in life.
2006-07-30 10:47:32 · answer #4 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's nothing wrong with it . and if your boy friend isn't offering you another way to solve your hardship then to bad . **** what they think. do you
2006-07-30 10:35:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋